Names they say speak for us in every way, both good or bad, and mine [Kingsley] has been saying much about me...in a way that I'm yet to like in terms of leadership. I always find myself being the leader of a group that has 99% sacrificial input and less than 1% benefits (permit me to say, 'earthly benefits').
Most of my leadership roles have been on "you're doing it for humanity," and such a role demands total sacrifice just to make the group, people, and world smile without anything in return.
The year 2019 was the peak of all, and after my tenure, I surrendered that I would never find myself in a leadership role that won't swell up my pocket . Yeah, I mean it, and I'm still on it till today. The only leadership I can find myself now is a payable one; if it's not, count me out....I'm not a fan of the positions/titles
Let me share the last leadership experience I had in school before graduation.
Towards the end of the final semester in school (OND section), we were grouped in tens to work on a project. The members of the group I belonged to, consisted of a mixed species of people (brilliant and semi-brilliant), and I was happy because I was ready to have my way in escaping some of the tasks and letting the 'most brilliant' ones do the tasks...as It's always been for some people that are just mere members of a group.
Then, the project supervisor came and appointed me as leader without any single reason except the fact that we fellowship in the same church and he saw me as well-mannered.
"Sir!"
"Me?"
"No ooo!"
"I can't take this position."
I cried out.
And he replied, "I want you to lead because I don't want anyone to give me trouble."
And that was it; the leadership role was stuck on my forehead, and there was nothing I could do.
We began the project (roofing an extension of a house in the school). Just as expected, it was just one student that always showed interest; the others would be begged to have their presence not to even talk of helping to bring a nail or hammer.
We successfully finished the practical work with the help of an external carpenter but we (I and the other guy) were always there to supervise the work, and when it was time for our practical reports, which we were to document (write, print, and spiral bind), the other guys showed up.
"Okay, fine, you guys didn't show interest during the practical work; you, you, you, & you go and work on chapter two while these guys go for chapter one. I and this guy will go for four & five." I shared the report work among us, and they all frowned.
I really fuzzed up from there. How can some people be so inconsiderate? How can they expect to eat where they didn't work?
"If you don't do it, I'll go and report to the supervisor. Period!" I threatened. It was just a mere threat because I had no such intention.
They all began to beg, and some of them offered to 'oil' my bank account to enable me to do the work on their behalf, but I refused.
You see where I have a problem? I was too righteous.šš
I refused to take anything, and that really straightened their heads, and they became reasonable and engaged with the work.
This particular encounter and the one I had in 2019 (which I'd share some other time) are what made me vow never to do charitable leadership again!
Thank you for reading.
This is my response to the Hive Students Hub prompt