The simple truth is that every conversation does not have to turn into a fight. In my opinion one of the main reasons conversations turn to a fight is the mode and tone of communication.
Another reason is because we have different viewpoints as humans. We all have our own ideas and beliefs. Sometimes, when we talk to other people , our ideas do not align and this can sometimes feel like someone is attacking us, even if they do not mean to. We get angry, and the conversation goes wrong.
I repeat every conversation does not have to turn to a fight and to avoid conversation turning into a fight we have to pick our words wisely and use our tone in a good way. If we know there might be a problem, we can try to solve it. We also need to know what makes us angry. What triggers you? It is very important to know how you feel. When you start to get angry, take a pause. Accept your feelings, but do not let them control you I know it is not easy but just try.
Try to see things from the other people’s perspective . You do not have to agree, but just try to understand them. What has happened to them that makes them think that way? What is even important to them? Ask questions and listen. Don’t just think about what you will say next while they are talking.
Think before you fight. Not every disagreement needs a big argument. Sometimes, it is very okay to disagree and move on. Ask yourself if fighting is important. If it is not worth it, then let it go. This does not even mean you have to change your values, but choose your battles wisely.
In conclusion, conversations are chances to learn, grow, and connect. If you listen, try to understand, and keep an open mind, you can make hard conversations into good ones.
Think about the things you say, see what went well and what did not , and try again. You will definitely get better at talking through hard conversations. You will even have better relationships and a happier life. Not every talk has to be a fight. Prioritize your peace and stay happy.