Hello everyone, trust you're all doing well.
Today, I’ll be talking about “People pleasers”
When you are a people-pleaser, you desire to be accepted and liked by everyone. Many people even go as far as doing everything for others just to be liked, and the truth is that wanting to be liked by everyone by pleasing them is very stressful. People pleasers tend to prioritize others' needs and wants over their own.
Wanting to make everyone happy at the detriment of your own well-being is nothing but trying to please people. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying it is bad to make people happy. I’m only saying there are some people who love to please people every single time, even when it will cost their well-being.
You see, the belief of when you do everything for others, they will like you more and you will fit in is a big lie! People will use you till you burn out, and they will stop liking you when you can’t do things for them anymore.
The question you should be asking yourself is Why am I trying to meet everyone’s expectations? Why am I doing this? Being a people pleaser doesn’t yield genuine relationships.
I understand that some people didn’t become people pleasers by choice. Some are tricked by people because they get emotional, and if you are an emotional person, you need to be self-aware. Some people please people unconsciously, and the only way they can come out of this is by being self-aware.
For other people, it is not knowing how to say no; they never say no, no matter what. Please set boundaries if not you will keep getting used by people.
To be honest, to stop being a people pleaser is not just about setting boundaries; it is way more than that, but setting boundaries helps. You need to embrace your own self, be confident, and know your worth. Don’t let your worth be tied to pleasing others every time.
The earlier you know you can’t please everyone, the better. Don’t let people make you feel bad for saying no, the truth is you can’t be responsible for everyone’s happiness every time.
Put yourself first. Learn to think about what you need and want. Saying 'no' to others can mean saying 'yes' to your happiness. Be true to yourself!
In conclusion, stop trying to please everyone!!! It is time to focus on yourself. Learn to love and accept who you are. Build relationships with people who respect you. It might be hard, but it is worth it. Stop being a people pleaser!
Thanks for your time.