The importance of grandparents

Hasta estas alturas de mi vida he notado la importancia de los abuelos en los niños, sinceramente en mi vida había experimentado algo asi ya que mis abuelos normalmente eran bastante ausentes, mi abuela paterna a pesar de que siempre la veía nunca la sentí cercana, incluso siento que su energía es mala y nunca me agrado, es duro decirlo, pero realmente no me gusta mi familia paterna, nunca conocí a mi abuelo paterno ya que el murió antes de yo nacer. Por la parte materna si debo admitir que amo a mi abuela, aunque es una persona bastante dura, no es para nada una abuela dulce y lamentablemente las veces que he compartido con ella han sido pocas ya que ella vive en otro estado del país, pero a pesar de ser una persona dura y poco cariñosa, es bastante graciosa, ocurrente y me hace sentir mas en casa. Y bueno, por todo esto jamás he sentido ese cariño cálido de un abuelo o abuela, nunca entendí a esos niños que amaban la comida de sus abuelas mas que las de mamá.

Up until this point in my life I have noticed the importance of grandparents in children, honestly in my life I had never experienced something like this since my grandparents were usually quite absent, my paternal grandmother although I always saw her I never felt close to her, I even feel that her energy is bad and I never liked her, it's hard to say, but I really don't like my paternal family, I never met my paternal grandfather since he died before I was born. On my maternal side, I must admit that I love my grandmother, although she is a rather harsh person, she is not at all a sweet grandmother and unfortunately the times I have shared with her have been few since she lives in another state of the country, but despite being a harsh and unloving person, she is quite funny, witty and makes me feel more at home. And well, because of all this I have never felt that warm affection from a grandfather or grandmother, I never understood those children who loved their grandmothers' cooking more than their mother's.

Mi perspectiva cambio bastante después de ver como mi suegro se ha convertido en un gran abuelo, a pesar de que creí que seria muy poco cariñoso porque mi esposo me ha contado que cuando el era pequeño mi suegro jamás le dio demasiada importancia, me parece increíble comparar las historias de mi esposo y al mismo tiempo ver a mi suegro actualmente siendo un abuelo super cariñoso, empático y que consiente demasiado a su nieto.

My perspective changed a lot after seeing how my father-in-law has become a great grandfather, even though I thought he would be very unaffectionate because my husband has told me that when he was little my father-in-law never gave him much importance. It seems incredible to me to compare my husband's stories and at the same time see my father-in-law currently being a super affectionate, empathetic grandfather who spoils his grandson a lot.

En muchas oportunidades mi suegro me ha dicho que sabe que fue un mal padre y siento que busca recompensar todo aquello que hizo mal en el pasado con su hijo, su nieto se ha convertido en su vida, siempre nos dice que nosotros 3 somos su razón de existir.

On many occasions my father-in-law has told me that he knows he was a bad father and I feel that he is looking to make up for everything he did wrong in the past with his son. His grandson has become his life. He always tells us that the three of us are his reason for existing.

Y me alegra saber que nuestro hijo está teniendo una infancia feliz, muy diferente a la de nosotros, tiene padres que lo aman demasiado, siempre intentamos que sus días estén llenos de risas, que las celebraciones sean especiales y además tiene abuelos que lo aman demasiado.

And I'm glad to know that our son is having a happy childhood, very different from ours. He has parents who love him very much. We always try to make his days full of laughter, to make the celebrations special, and he also has grandparents who love him very much.

Y aunque no ve mucho a su abuela (Mi mamá) tambien la quiere muchísimo y espera ansioso las navidades para pasar tiempo con ella. Mi suegro es mas cercano ya que vive muy cerca de nuestra casa y por eso suele compartir bastante con él, salen al parque, lo lleva al cine o simplemente dan un paseo en alguna plaza. Hasta ahora puedo ver que los abuelos son otro apoyo emocional, sentir que tienes familia que te ama te hace muy feliz.

And although he doesn't see his grandmother (my mom) much, he also loves her very much and looks forward to Christmas to spend time with her. My father-in-law is closer since he lives very close to our house, so he often spends time with him. They go to the park, take him to the movies, or just go for a walk in a square. So far, I can see that grandparents are another emotional support; feeling like you have a family that loves you makes you very happy.