Up until this point in my life I have noticed the importance of grandparents in children, honestly in my life I had never experienced something like this since my grandparents were usually quite absent, my paternal grandmother although I always saw her I never felt close to her, I even feel that her energy is bad and I never liked her, it's hard to say, but I really don't like my paternal family, I never met my paternal grandfather since he died before I was born. On my maternal side, I must admit that I love my grandmother, although she is a rather harsh person, she is not at all a sweet grandmother and unfortunately the times I have shared with her have been few since she lives in another state of the country, but despite being a harsh and unloving person, she is quite funny, witty and makes me feel more at home. And well, because of all this I have never felt that warm affection from a grandfather or grandmother, I never understood those children who loved their grandmothers' cooking more than their mother's.
My perspective changed a lot after seeing how my father-in-law has become a great grandfather, even though I thought he would be very unaffectionate because my husband has told me that when he was little my father-in-law never gave him much importance. It seems incredible to me to compare my husband's stories and at the same time see my father-in-law currently being a super affectionate, empathetic grandfather who spoils his grandson a lot.
On many occasions my father-in-law has told me that he knows he was a bad father and I feel that he is looking to make up for everything he did wrong in the past with his son. His grandson has become his life. He always tells us that the three of us are his reason for existing.
And I'm glad to know that our son is having a happy childhood, very different from ours. He has parents who love him very much. We always try to make his days full of laughter, to make the celebrations special, and he also has grandparents who love him very much.
And although he doesn't see his grandmother (my mom) much, he also loves her very much and looks forward to Christmas to spend time with her. My father-in-law is closer since he lives very close to our house, so he often spends time with him. They go to the park, take him to the movies, or just go for a walk in a square. So far, I can see that grandparents are another emotional support; feeling like you have a family that loves you makes you very happy.