Tied up in a safe harbour, protected from rough weather or predictable seas, is a perfectly legitimate place for a boat to be. Its mooring lines are tied fast, securely holding the boat in place, preventing it from moving much more than a little as it strains against those lines. It will neither find not trials in tribulations...Nor will it move forward...It'll just stay in place, safe and all-but motionless...Until it has to move.
Humans do it too.
They tie themselves in-place emotionally, often securely attaching a story to an event from the past, a failure maybe; Or a reason that justifies that immobility and failure to act and to do something that might see them fail again. It's safe and sound, attached to inactivity, by those emotional mooring lines.
But is it the right thing?
Only the individual knows that answer although in life if you're not moving forward you're moving backward: This means that time moves no matter what, and if one doesn't also move life tends to leave them behind. You don't have to agree, it's just my opinion.
Setting sail seems an option.
Casting off those mooring lines, cutting them, is the first step in moving forward. I guess first acknowledging them is a critical step also. It's sort of like a ship casting off and heading out of the harbour-inlet...Once out it can set sail, catch some trade-winds, and sail off to wherever it chooses...We're the same whether it's moving on from a relationship, bad job-scenario, or any other situation holding us rooted in place.
Often once the journey starts it gains momentum...But it all has to start with casting off those mooring lines.
Loosing sight of the shore is the only way to cross the ocean.