Inevitably irreversible - Anai's writings

Photography Original 14/04/2020 (red moon)

Death is a reality. It is a natural part of life and the only thing in which we are all equal. To reach the fullness of life, one must learn to deal properly with grief and death.

Many people do not understand the complex mix of emotions that accompany the loss of a loved one, and so, when it is their turn to experience those emotions, they figure there is something strange or unnatural about them, and doubt whether they will be able to behave in the right way.

The death of someone close to us arouses multiple emotions, those that are to be expected and others that we might not have foreseen and will miss us. These can range from a very deep sorrow to a sense of relief when the passing away puts an end to an existence burdened with pain and suffering; these are the cases in which we console ourselves by thinking that the loved one has finally stopped suffering.

Many people are reluctant to express their feelings in front of others; they are embarrassed to be seen demonstrating intense emotional distress. We are human beings and we have a right to feel pain and sadness. This is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of "good heart" as we are affected by the death of the other person.

There is nothing so conducive to reminding us of our own mortality as the death of a loved one. While we do not have that near-death experience, we think that this is something that happens to other people... and only when they are very old.

There are many known accounts of people who have seen death up close and even people who have been declared clinically dead and were revived shortly thereafter. Such cases are so numerous and have so many coincidences that we cannot put it aside or consider it mere fiction.

If there is something you would have liked to say or preferred not to say, or something you did or did not do, it is sometimes helpful to sit down and write a letter to the missing person.