Good for you Joey that you take the time and effort to analyse everything, this is really important if we want to evolve. I know that it feels rather painful and that most of us would just like to bury it all and not "disturb the dead" , but looking in the dark corners of our souls can allow light to come through. It's hard, it is really hard. Now that I went through it (and the peal off process has just begun and will continue) I no longer blame anyone for not doing the process when I would believe they should. Each person has their own timing and we can never know what is in one person's soul so being gentle and kind is really the way to go. We learn this. I know that the path towards myself is always under construction and I am hopeful that more people will want to try inner management as knowing yourself is the only real thing we ever need. To know and to love ourselves for who we are.