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A reason for this can be evolved ego with time. Since decades now, we have been engaged in the process of marriages. Our ancestors have been believing that they have full right on their partners and that they belonged to no one else but only themselves. This must have made them feel important, must have increased their self-importance concerning their married partners. That can be a reason why we humans crave to have someone who is just ours to have! Who we don't want to share. Who we have a right upon.
Another reason for it can be brainwash by the society that teaches us this same concept in various ways. We have learned and observed this from movies and society that every married person gets someone who then becomes theirs to rule at! The development of ego if not ancestral, if not in our genes, then it can be through our conditioning from the surroundings.
Now if you think it can also be 'true love' if two people want to live together for the rest of their lives and not the incepted idea of reproduction or due to social norms then let us talk about that as well!!
Animals love and care for each other. They also hate and kill each other. They have all kinds of emotions and all they know is to react. They don't know how to deal with their emotions. Being human gave us several advantages. It allowed us to deal wisely with our emotions. Well, to some of us at least. They made the laws, discriminated between right and wrong and expected us to follow those rules so that all could live in peace.
But not all of us are that wise. Some break these rules and face brutal consequences. Others follow the rules just out of fear of the laws and not because of their understanding or capability of handling the emotions. Affection, adoration, happiness and attachments are some such emotions. Love is not. Love is something hard to understand for humans. Love is the base on which the whole universe exists. Everything and everyone was created out of love. If you want to understand love then read this post which I have already written on this topic.
We humans need to go beyond our physical and mental selves to understand love. We need to reach our higher self, need to connect with the supreme power who created us to understand love. We need to attain spirituality. Until then, we can form our relationships based on who makes us feel good, who takes care of us, who supports us, who looks attractive to us, pulls our attention and who feels all these things in return for us. Attachments and understanding are the basis of our relationships in the current time.
Coming back to a monogamous relationship between humans. Yes, we all think so that we want to live with a specific person for the rest of our lives, that is why we marry them!!! Otherwise, why would we? We could live in with them instead of getting married but we believe that it's forever!! That is why we marry!!
But about 40-50% of the marriages result in a divorce in this world. That proves that we wrongly interpret our feelings of being together forever. The remaining ones are highly likely to NEVER cheat on their partner. Some of them are likely to stay together just for the sake of the kids or society.
So it leaves us with about 25% of people who live together and are not engaged in any sexual relationships other than their partners! But it can be a possibility though that their partners never find out if they ever cheated them or not. Still, if we choose not to consider it, we can assume that either they were just lucky to find their perfect partner or they were too strong that they could reject all the wrong people in their lives and waited until they came across that person who was just perfect for them. Also, who knows if they get separated later in their life, after all, they are still alive. The database is based on the current situation and not based on people who are no more with us, isn't it?
So the majority of the population still has no idea how to make themselves monogamous and control themselves from not having feelings for some other person!!
This raises the question of whether monogamy is natural to human beings or is it made by us? And if it is made by us then are we still in the era where it's formation was important? Shouldn't we accept that things have changed now and so there is a strong need to change some systems with time!
Yes, the system of marriages is no more applicable in today's time but the next question then is, what should be done, if not marriage?
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