Meditation while it is sometimes a thought of taming your mind, it is actually about exploring it. You find memories that you don't want to find. Which is where training your mind comes in. This is why most can't get past this point, but you have to train your mind to remember that memory so you can accept that memory for the other actions. When people get that memory, they stop meditating and then "do something" to occupy their thoughts so that the memory is pushed back out of their inner sight. But the solution is to make it front and center, so that when you do accept it and resolve or forgive your "reactions" that made it be MORE of who you are, it becomes transparent or just part of the serenity of life. Which is what you want to achieve in the ZEN of meditation.