What is love? This is the most frequently asked questions which has so many replies/answers to it. Though, many describe love based on feelings they experience. Love is not a feeling we have/experience.
Feelings are brief sensations we have for someone.
Love is a decision we make where you completely fall for the person without giving it a second thought.
Unlike feelings, LOVE lasts longer(does not come and go) in which a commitment(bond) is made between the two parties. A love without commitment falls apart when times get rough in the relationship as life turns upside down.
We have different kinds of love, the major kinds of love are as follows;
- Eros Love (Passionate/Romantic Love)
- Agape Love (Selfless Love)
- Storge Love (Familial Love)
- Philia Love (Friendship Love)
EROS LOVE
Eros is the word often used to express feelings of arousal that are shared between people who are sexually attracted to one another.
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AGAPE LOVE
Agape is defined as a self-sacrificing love. It is the kind of love originated from God for humankind.
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STORGE LOVE
Storge refers to a natural love such as the love of a parent towards his child.
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PHILIA LOVE
Philia refers to brotherly love and mostly occurs in close friendship.
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Many of us have beliefs about love and romance which actually prevents us from making clever choices when it comes to love which are called LOVE MYTHS. For instance,
- Some believe true love happens at first sight
True love doesn’t happen at first sight. It is infatuation that hits you at first sight. True love happens after time has passed, after you have seen the good and bad side of your partner but it takes no time to experience infatuation or lust in the relationship. - Some believe the perfect partner satisfies all your needs
Your partner may satisfy you with all your needs but doesn't mean the love he has for you is a true/pure one because you might see a bad side of him during down times.
Remember, love is not a feeling you feel but a decision you make which requires patience, time and true commitment. So, now, let's talk about you. Do you really love the person you are with? Does your relationship defy these myths? And do you now know if whether or not you love each other truthfully? There's something you need to think about today.