In around 2000, a television film series entitled Keluarga Cemara, in English is the fir family was very popular in Indonesia. Not only the film series is very popular, but even the soundtrack of the song is also very popular today. I just opened Facebook and saw some people posting the song. Even yesterday also saw other people posting that song too.
The first lyric in the song is "The most precious treasure... is family". I think this song is dangerous. Why? Because in every lyric, people adore family too much, as if the family is a perfect thing and can never be wrong. As a result, people went blind in the presence of their families.
Many do not realize that family can be very dangerous for themselves. Family is a source of problems for mental health. For example, husband and wife infidelity, siblings can be hostile to each other or even kill each other to fight over family inheritance, and family economic crises can also cause fights.
A friend once said to me “the most painful thing is being hurt by your own family”. Remember, the family can kill you. Many people have high hopes for their families, but end up in great sadness. Families are often a source of great trouble. In this case, we need inner clarity.
People who have just heard the cypress family song will usually romanticize the family. Romance has given the wrong view of a family. We need a critical attitude and common sense in responding to this. There is something more precious than family, and we must find it. I think our attention is the most valuable treasure. Because our attention is rooted in our life and consciousness. If we practice our mindfulness, then we can change our lives for the better.
Our attention is our world, so what we pay attention to will fill our life. If our attention is directed to sad things, then our life will be sad. Conversely, if our attention leads to the development of science, then our insight into knowledge will develop. This is what we must be aware of.
Attention is closely related to our concentration. Without concentration, it will be very difficult to do any task. Work and study require concentration to sustain life properly and correctly. Practicing our attention can increase concentration on work or study. We also have to be fully aware of this.
As I explained above, if our attention is directed to destructive things, suffering will come. If our attention is directed to happy things, happiness will come. Very simple, but many people are not aware of this. The most important thing is to train our attention. One way is, at some point in time, we pay attention to one object consciously. Calmness and clarity of mind will emerge, and life will feel quality.
All the problems in the family will never end. Family problems always come and go. Just be aware and watch your attention. That way, everything will be fine.