When getting your life in order, It's hard to help others Effectively if your own life is in a mess. If you really want to make a positive impact in the world you will be better at it if you aren't too distracted or in pain by your own problems.
You can only rescue others when you know yourself well, when you can think of what's right and wrong, when you can see things from a different angle, when you can differentiate between the good and bad things in your life.
I remember a time in 2018 when I had a problem with my academics, it was not easy on me to the extent I was feeling depressed and so many other thoughts were just coming through my mind but by the grace of God I came out of it by 2021. I felt relieved, that feeling you get when somebody gives you something ( sorry I value a gift a lot no matter how little it is) I made a decision that will be good for me and put me at peace. I had to love myself first because nobody can love me better than me.
When some people I know had the same issue and they come to me I am able to counsel them on this because I had passed through this same situation some years ago I know where it pains even if I know we are all different and we all handle stuff/ pains differently, but I had to make them understand from my own point how I came out from it because it wasn't easy on me but I had to do what best for me and love me first.
Now I made a positive impact on myself first before passing it to the other.