Many parents exaggerate their reactions to the mistakes of their children, and perhaps most of them are ignorant of the correct ways to deal with the mistakes and mischief of children.
They make it easy to hit and sometimes the severe beating and screaming, assuming that this deters the child from repeating his wrong actions and that they are thus raising their children.
However, many studies prove that the harms of child abuse are many and may accompany it to the later stages of his life, in addition to the fact that no positive result of beating children under the age of ten has not been scientifically proven.
In this article, we will try to explain the harms of child abuse in addition to presenting some ways that enable parents to punish their children without causing physical or psychological harm to the child.
The harm of child hitting.
Violent practices against children involve many harms, including physical and psychological, it varies according to the type of punishment, the personality of the child, his age, and perhaps the surroundings in which he lives.
It makes the child's character weak.
Spanking loses the child's self-esteem and becomes unsure of himself, which affects the child and makes him shy and finds it difficult to adapt to social life.
Child's tendency to violence at an early age.
A battered child becomes aggressive and thinks of revenge and rebellion, and sometimes hits his younger brother or schoolmates because they made a mistake, believing that he was doing the right thing, and it polite them.
It affects the child's relationship with the abusive parent.
Hitting a child leads to generating negative feelings towards his father, who hits him and this feeling persists even after reaching an old age, which prevents a strong relationship between one of his parents and maybe both.
It affects the child's relationship with the abusive parent.
Hitting a child leads to generating negative feelings towards his father, who hits him and this feeling persists even after reaching an old age, which prevents a strong relationship between one of his parents and maybe both.
The child’s adoption of this method in dealing with his children in the future.
Many cases have been recorded in which the abused child reaches an adult, he treats his children the same way he was treated before, and this indicates that the effects of child abuse continue with the child into the advanced stages of his life.
The right way to punish children.
Before talking about ways to punish children, we must know that all children do wrong behavior sometimes, but if their mistakes do not harm them or harm those around them, there is no need to lead the matter to punishment.
And if their mistakes are serious and deserve punishment so that they do not repeat them, then care must be taken to ensure that the punishment does not detract from their self-esteem. The following are some of the punishments that parents can use to discipline their children.
Being deprived of the things they love.
The biggest concern of most children is playing, so depriving the child of his favorite games will be the first punishment that the parent thinks about applying to the child and will remember it for a while.
Cut off talking to the child.
Ignoring the child and not talking to him maybe a deterrent punishment, but it should not be prolonged, especially if the child is under the age of eight, and the maximum period for it is one day.
Execution of punishments if they promise punishment.
Parents should carry out their promises of punishment if they promise because failure to implement will plant in the hearts of children indifference to punishments, and they are just words to change and they will continue in their mistakes.
Discussing wrongdoing.
Sometimes children are punished without knowing the reason or knowing the mistake they made, and this increases the possibility of repeating the mistake, so the parents should explain to the child the mistake he made before punishing him, as this will make him feel guilty and push him not to repeat his actions.