Responsibilities have weighed down many people. Some are currently in a very bad financial state and this has also affected their health. We try as much as possible to be there for our friends, families and loved ones. We don't want to see them suffer anything or lose anything. This is a good mindset but they get also get us in a very bad state.
A lot of people are currently poor because they try to be there for the people around them. Families will call, they will provide. Friends will call for assistance, they will provide. They keep providing at the expense of their finance. Giving is pretty good but when it gets to a level where your finance is getting down, you should think twice. Because if you are broke they will still live.
If the people you prove to be responsible for are not a handicap, your weight should reduce.
Invest in yourself first
If you want to be able to provide, and take absolute care for the people around you, you need to invest in yourself first. You need to create the avenue to always have. This doesn't mean you are greedy but you are creating more stability for yourself. Invest in your business, knowledge, and everything that will give a absolute financial freedom.
Don't confuse weight with responsibilities
Weights are the help or assistance you render at the expense of something. I have done this several times for the people I love but I feel the pain in silence and no matter how close or important anyone is to you, if their life is not at stake, and they are not handicap, you shouldn't carry unnecessary weight because you want to provide.
Don't impress to keep relationships
This happens most in romantic relationships, where people try to impress their partners to stay and make them feel absolutely secured. Most times, when the money is not flowing again, the person you try to impress will start disappointing you.
Don't let weight make you do things you are not supposed to do.
If you find yourself doing things you don't normally do because of someone then you need to calm them and check if they are worth it. Weight can make you steal and cheat. Because you need to fulfil something for your family or friends, you began to do things that are illegal. These are clearly weight you shouldn't bear.
We should care for people around us but don't let it affect your finance to the level where you will go broke, because when you do, they may disappoint you. I friend was telling me about his experience with his family. He has been investing in his father's house to make it look good at the expense of his business because his sister wants to bring friends from the city for her wedding. Something little happened between them and he realized spending that much for her cause doesn't worth it.
Don't forget this, you can only give what you have.
Thank you!
