One day Mom told me that the day she died I would miss her a lot and I would realize that no matter how annoying her scolding may be, I would really miss it.
She also asked me to spread her ashes that day, she was not ill, thank God, but in the conversation she thought it was good to touch on that topic.
That day I started to think, in that moment when our parents grow old, we went from believing that they are indestructible, invincible and that they would last us for a long time and we began to feel that deep fear, to thinking about that hard moment in which we no longer They are and it is so difficult.
It is common to feel a degree of anxiety and fear because we want them to be for life, since they were the ones who cared about our health, our well-being, our clothing and others, now comes that moment in which, it is our turn We feel that concern and be aware of medical insurance, their withdrawal, their medications, pending if they have already taken what they need and if they have already fed properly.
Things like "I already made your appointment" "I already bought you the shoes you needed" these phrases become more common as time goes by and although they bring satisfaction for complaser them and take care of them, they also bring a feeling that time is running out and is little what will be with us.
It is a kind of duel in which now things change although they do not think it seems, we stop being cared for by them and we become the caregivers.
It is something inevitable, that will happen when you least expect it and the more we talk about it, it will be much easier to cope with that moment and accept it.
Asking your grandparents or parents if they are happy is receiving an answer with another question ...
My grandmother once asked me that and answered like most young people.
She told her about my dreams, of traveling to different places and that she was not fully happy at that time, but that she would be happy at that time to make each of my dreams come true.
To which she responds with her sweet voice, always remember this my girl, we all believe that our happiness will begin when we are of legal age and be free as everyone expects or when we get married and our children are born.
Then things are not what they seemed before, you get married, you have children and you begin to feel exhausted, because you cannot sleep as before, now there is a stronger activity and it is their growth and when they reach adolescence that kind of conflict begins. and doubts in which you must be firm and be more observant, where you will cry for both positive and negative emotions and you will want them to grow soon to theoretically enjoy the tranquility again.
Others may not get married so quickly and think that their happiness will begin, when they have a great house, they can go on vacation to an exotic place and who knows how many other things.
But the reality is that future happiness does not exist, but is in the now, then when? If you do not manage to find that happiness now, in the future there will be problems that later will not make you feel as happy as you thought and you will come to the opinion that happiness does not exist, when it was always there, but you did not take advantage of it thinking that being an adult was your way to the greatest happiness.
My grandmother made me understand that over time we realize that problems are part of our lives and that each advice from our parents and grandparents is to know how to handle future problems and get to live fully happy facing the different stages of life .
She taught me at that time that the path to happiness does not exist, since happiness is the path.
I really enjoyed this conversation, while she shared a coffee and a donut, she dedicated that time to her before it was too late and she brought me a lot of learning.
My mother has always told me that the most difficult thing for her is to think about reaching 80 years of age and looking back, realizing that you were happy and did not take advantage of it, that's why she enjoys every day by our side, dance, laugh, shout, sing and is happy.
My grandmother and my mother have taught me the value of happiness and how much I should enjoy them, take care of them while life allows me, give them what they gave me and continue that legacy even when they are gone.
How many times have you heard our elders say ... that before they were other times, with an air of sadness and nostalgia, that they were happier young people and that they had iron health.
My grandmother reminded me not to fall for this, since we should not grant our happiness to the future or the past, but to remember that happiness is not a state, but a decision.
Let us not let happiness pass by and we do not see it, waiting for a future that we do not know what will bring us, our parents and grandparents are our greatest treasure, we keep each advice and live every moment, we take care of them as they did with us and when They are no longer here, let us be their greatest legacy.
