These are great wisdom and lessons I have learnt from different authors and mentors. I am sure these tips will bless you in no small way. Get a pen and jot these points down.
The user manual for relationship and marriage is the Bible. God want us to have heaven on earth marriage
The foundation for a good marriage is God’s perfect and unconditional love for us.
The kind of love God has for us is the kind of love that should be seen in marriages, for God so loved the World that He gave us the only begotten son for us to be saved (Sacrifice). The apex of love is sacrifice.
God created Adam alone so that he could see God first then He put Adam to sleep to create Eve so that Eve may also see God first; the first person Adam was God and same as Eve.
When Christ is the center between husband and wife. No force on earth or in heaven will be able to separate such from each other.
Love expresses appreciation, people are quick to criticize, but very slow to appreciate.
Love is quick to forgive, love is slow to blame but quick to forgive. Don’t wait until the evening to do that. If you get a thorn in your foot in the morning, you will take it out immediately, be quick to forgive.
Love is eager to do things with one’s partner (to do things together). God’s system of love is that once a person partakes in a thing the other must be involved true love does things together. Eccles. 4:9-14
Accept each other always just as you are. Acceptance means accepting are another’s fault that’s the way of love. The first fruit of the spirit is love. Gal.5:22.
Love your partner freely without looking for any grounds in your partner for your love. Note this:- Your kindness and gentleness and the fact that you are care enough to try and understand your partner’s feeling will make your partner grow wings – small wings and feeble wings initially but wings. And if you
don’t give up, those wings will grow so that one day both of you will fly up
into the sky as eagles. The way God intended you to.
The Art of knowing 1 peter 3:7, likewise you husbands dwell with them
according to knowledge, not assumption, how much more do you know your spouse? You are forever a student of a person you love. Don’t ever assume to know a person. You need to study him/her every day.
The Art of listening: Communication is not important as listening, I can talk but if you are not listening, it’s meaningless. There is an art of listening; everything you learn is based on your ability to listen. If you are not going to listen then you will loose. It is a simple way that either makes your relationship or breaks it.
Feeling represents the loving capacity of the mind.
Intuition is the natural knowing capacity of the mind.
The coming together of a wise man (wise- spiritual intelligence, deep in the
knowledge of the word of God, a prayerful life, a godly life, a Christ like life) and a wise woman produces heaven on earth home and family whereby they produces as children, an evangelical, prophetic, Apostolic and leadership mantles.
The attitude of your family is a reflection of your attitude.
A successful family is where there is Joy and Laughter, rest and love.
The only hope for strengthening the marriage relationship is to know and apply
the principles of the Word God.
Jesus is the cement that holds the home together. He is the guide, the teacher,
the one who unites and plants love in the house (home) Psalm 127:1
Nothing works until you work it out, Hebrews 4:4. You must program yourself for it. If you desire it, you cannot have a successful family life except you work
it out.
You need to associate with successful families.
Courtship is the time to pray, study and acquainted with the Lord and with
yourselves. God’s seal upon a marriage is crucial to the degree of success a couple enjoys. God must join a man and woman.
The greatest and perhaps most crucial key to a healthy relationship is maturity. It is not how old that determines when to marry, it is how whole.
Love want to give, lust cannot wait to get.
Lust can start an affair but can never sustain it. Love sustains whatever it starts Lust gives immediate gratification, love gives ultimate satisfaction.
Relationship and marriage is for COMPANIONSHIP.
Take life easy. “Life is 10% what you make it and 90% how you take it. Never place too much expectation on anybody.
Love genuinely and be grateful.
Excepts from the book : BECOMING ONE BY JOSEPH OLOWOOKERE
Lean the power of “I’m sorry. “Thank you” “I love you”.