God gave man and woman their own individual, unique nature. To each of them it is a glory.
The unique desires of each are satisfied differently, the result of God’s creative wisdom. The basic differences between the male and the female need to be understood from a Biblical perspective. Israel’s sin was dealing with God as if He were a man. Many a man misses the mark in dealing with a woman because he makes the same mistake. He tries to deal with her as if dealing with a man.
In creation, God put Adam in the Kingdom of God, and the Kingdom of God in Adam, when He placed Adam in Eden and gave him stewardship over the whole earth. Adam was created in the image of God and for the glory of God. God created him in a state of concreated holiness, without sin, and therefore with a perfect mind, body and spirit. Adam could exercise obedience to God’s command and name everything on earth that needed to be named–his mind was capable because it was without blight. Sin brings blight. Adam was without sin, therefore without blight.
To know what Adam was like in his original manhood, you need only to look at the second Adam, the Lord Jesus Christ, in His humanity.
Given the responsibility of stewardship over the earth, Adam derived his greatest satisfaction from the reproduc- tion process that God had established for the replenishing of the earth. As steward over the earth, Adam was given the responsibility of overseeing the process of re-creation. His unique nature and desire were basically satisfied in relationship to his stewardship and the reproductive process involved in it.
From then until now, a man’s source of fulfillment has never changed. Man still derives his greatest satisfaction from the reproductive process of his stewardship over the earth. His job–whether farming, running a lathe, operating a steel mill, selling clothes, managing a company, digging ditches or exercising authority as the chief executive officer of a corporation–is still where a man finds his basic satis- faction in life
The workplace is where a man’s unique desire is basi- cally satisfied. The farmer’s satisfaction with the reproduc- tive process is found at harvest-time. A salesman finds it when the customer buys the product or service, an archi- tect when his plans become a finished building, an account- ant when his audit is completed, and a preacher when his altar call produces results. We men were created that way. It’s never changed.
God’s pattern for the replenishing of the earth through the process of each seed-bearing plant reproducing after its own kind was transferred to the reproduction process for mankind. To replenish the earth, God established a repro- ductive process whereby the man would plant his seed into the woman, and the earth would be replenished with humanity. Because the reproduction process of replenishing the earth was the most satisfying to a man’s unique nature in relationship to his job, it became the same in relation- ship to a woman. The same principle applied to both stew- ardships–that of the the earth and of the family.
God made sex to be enjoyable so the man would desire it and fulfill God’s command to replenish the earth. Sex isn’t something a man is forced to engage in. Sex is the most satisfying aspect of a man’s life in relationship to a woman. It is also the reason most men can be satisfied with their paycheck at work and sex at home, and not be too concerned with much of anything else. Paycheck and sex, and most men are content.
But, that won’t satisfy the needs of a woman nor satis- fy his God-given responsibilities and character as a man. When a man fails to recognize, understand, or meet unique needs of a woman, it can cause trouble–for her, for him. Procreation may be an evidence of manliness for some, but it is never an evidence of maturity.
Love is greater than sex. Love has evidences and provi- sions that every man needs to understand. Sex is not a part of love when it is the expression of lust. Woman was made to be beautiful, desirable, and loved. Unfortunately, because of his tendency to worship the creature rather than the Creator, man has corrupted the natural beauty of woman by looking upon her as an object to be taken or bought in order to satisfy his own lust. Strong words. But true.
It is also true that many a woman thoroughly enjoys her ability to seduce a man, and to exercise power over him through her seductive capabilities. There would be no pornography to look at if there were no women who desired to flaunt their sexual prowess.
The women’s liberation movement began as a justifi- able rejection against men’s double standards, but through time it degenerated into a general rebellion against all men. The rejection of male chauvinism by women was admirable because woman was never meant to be a victim of some man’s predatory passions and lusts. Rejection is often a proper course of action, but rebellion never is. Still, the existence and growth of even radical feminism serves to illustrate a point: Women are tired of being misunderstood and abused!
Men must learn to minister to the woman’s unique nature. Both single and married men need to know and understand the nature of both sexes, but many do not recognize their own unique male nature. Men complain that they do not understand women, but often they simply do not understand themselves.
To misunderstand women is to misjudge and mistreat them. That’s why women suffered from male dominance for centuries. Christianity is the only religion that has ele- vated woman to the place God originally created her to be–not as inferior, but as a joint-heir with men.
A woman’s uniqueness is her greatest appeal to a man–and his greatest challenge.
Culled from the Book : Communication Sex and Money by Edwin Louis Cole
