A great story and paradigm here. Despite being a sad story.

This is the kind of situation that nobody or I believe that almost nobody wants to choose to go through.

A point well raised for you. Many people will want to respond to your views here, calmly, well relaxed in their homes and in a rational way. But this is invalid.

The real answer is the one that will happen for those who are experiencing this tense and complicated moment. With emotions difficult to control. Perhaps the doctor who is already used to this type of situation throughout life is more calm and rational. But a mother with her child has no equanimity to help. Only if she came from a family with strong roots and an understanding of these difficult situations and about "life after death".