Every parents loves their child very much. There is not doubt in that case. They take care of their children properly .They always try to do their best for the better future of their child. Many times they never hesitate to sacrifice their own desire for the better future of their children. I am quite sure that it will be hard to find a person who is is not ready to accept this.
After doing all of this things as a return they can expect a good behaviour from their children. And it's the responsibility of their children also. As a parent they always want to make their child number 1 in every case. This kind of expectation is quite normal from parents. But this kind normal expectation seems not to be normal and becoming a obstacles of their children.
I am here to explain about it how this kind of normal expectation turning into obstacles for their children .
At the time when a little baby started to understand a little bit, they started to do various kind of funny things and they try to disturb parents. And it's a normal behaviour of a baby child. At that time they also feel interested to play with smartphone playing games and watching videos ect ect.. In that time parents give them smartphone to their child and make them busy with it and because of it parents get some time to do their work . Sometimes parents buy a additional smartphone for it . It's the common story of every house in recent days. As a result little children are getting addicted in smartphone. Besides it's not healthy for them and it hampers their mental growth.
In a word parents giving them all facility to become addicted in smartphone and at the same tine they want their child not to be addicted in smartphone. Isn't it rediculus???
After the starting of student life of a child every parents wants their children in number one. There is nothing wrong in this expectation but most of time parents blame their children because of not to be the number one. Isn't it wrong also? Only one person can get the position of number one but every parents want it. So except the number one others desire is impossible to fullfil.
For proper study we all need tutors and coaching classes and its necessary also. But in this challenging world parents became super extra conscious. They hire 3 to 4 home tutors for the children and in additional they admitted their child in coaching classes also for the better future of their children. Besides they have to go to school regularly. Moreover many parents wants there children to do better extra curriculum activities like singing, dancing and they appoint a teacher for that .As a result they( child) losing their time of playing. And it's also hampering the proper mental and physical growth of child.
In case of choosing a profession should be based on the interest of their child. So selecting a profession is really beneficial one if they feel interested in it. But most of time parents try to manipulate it and force them. They want to see their child as a doctor or engineer. It actually doesn't matter to them that their child interested in that profession or not . Isn't it like because of patent's one decision they have to suffer many years?
Generally that kind of robotic children's mental growth is not so good. It's because parents don't give them enough time for their mental growth. Parents always try compare them with others and blame their children not to be good like the compared one.
Seriously? Is it any kind of joke? Can a children comparable with others where they doesn't say belongs to the same situation and same environment ?
Comparing with others is the worst one which parents used to do with their children. And it's enough to destroy a good mentality of a child and they start to hate that person with whom they compared.
I just wanna ask some question to those parents. Those question are
- Are you doing justice with your children?
- Do you think that they are robot who can give you all day service?
- Do you think that they are just a machine to fulfill your expectation?
- Aren't you forcing them to fullfiling your dream which you are not able to do?
- Isn't it like that you are trying to controlling them like a puppet or a robot 🤖?
- And are they exist here to compare with others ?
I am trying to give the answer one by one continuously here.
Firstly you( parents) are doing injustice with you children and you are the reason because of what they are childhood beautiful moment is destroying.
They are not a robot who will give you all the service. But it seems you are trying to make them robot. And they are not a machine by whom you can fulfill all of your expectation. So it's better for them to keep lower your expectation a little bit and don't force them for it.
And don't try to control them like a puppet because they are not a puppet and it's really create difficulties for them to making their own decision in future . Don't force your children to fullfil your dream in which you were a failure if they are not interested in it.
Compare one person with another is the most humiliating act. And it's enough to make a child mentally disturb. If children are comparable then parents also comparable also. If children start to compare your family with Elon Musk's family then you are a failure also. Because his current background is much better then you and you are a failure. So i think you don't have right to compare with others where you are a failure too.
Parents are divine gift. We all should respect them . All parents wants the happiness of their child and they are the well wisher of us. Don't think that i am attacking the parents for those reason which i described. I just tried to show that the expectations and dreams of them leading the new generation's child into a robot. And today's child is the future of our nation. We should allow them to grow naturally both physically and mentally. And it's the responsibility of parents also.
I am extremely sorry if someone feel hurt after reading this article . I have no intention to hurt you. I write this article to make aware about this.
