Negative traits! Are there also people on the POB platform who have negative traits? Yeah sure, I'm sure almost everyone in this world has negative traits and sometimes those who have negative attitudes, but they don't realize it. Some people are not aware that they have negative traits. And the funniest thing I see, the negative person does not want himself to be labeled negative by others. And finally, he tends to blame others because other people don't agree with him.
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I read a book a few years ago about negativity. In the book, it is written like this : "Those who have negative traits but don't want to admit and feel that they are negative. That's the first. Then the second negative type is that he realizes that he is negative, finally he tends to be a person who doesn't confident. When he is not confident, then he can not be himself. Finally, there is a conflict in his heart."
A few days ago, I tried to reflect on the negative traits that we never notice in our lives. And finally I was able to realize that I also have negative traits, even though I always try to fight with negative traits so that they don't overwhelm me.
The first trait is perfectionism
What is perfectionism? As I have read in a book about perfectionists : People who often disagree with teachers, friends, co-workers. Those are the characteristics of perfectionists. Nah! Are perfectionists wrong? If, I think not. I just want you to know that in this world, no one is perfect.
So if you feel that you are perfect, that means you are forcing others to accept your own opinion. Maybe you are a smart person, when compared to others. But remember, you still can't force your will. Because your interlocutor will feel uncomfortable. In the end, the other person will feel intimidated and feel that you are not the right person to talk to. In fact, it could be that your idea is actually good and brilliant. But because you have a perfectionist nature, eventually your good and brilliant ideas will be useless.
The second trait is like to doubt your own abilities
Have you ever doubted yourself? I'm sure many people often doubt their own abilities, even though their abilities are very useful. So, they are the type of people who do not dare to step up. They will be afraid to go anywhere. When they try to do something new, they must think first. When they make a decision, they must think first. When they want to leave the house, they are afraid of corona. Even though they have worn masks, have followed health protocols, they still feel unsafe. So I think they were too scared. So they tend to doubt themselves. People like this actually have excessive negative traits.
The third trait is that you try to do anything without needing anyone else's help.
There are too many people I see who try to do things without needing anyone's help, and don't care about other people's ideas. So I think, if you feel to want to be in control of everything, that means you're living without needing anyone's help. You don't need a wife, you don't need kids, you don't need friends. In fact, you also don't need a team and community help.
So, you feel that what other people do is never right. For example, when someone comes up with an idea for your project, you might say like this : "I don't need your stupid idea." Try to think about how the person who gave the idea for your project felt.
If you feel that you are the greatest, you feel that you are the most worthy and right, it means that you do not need the help of others. You don't need a team. I can't work with people like that, because I really respect other people. I understand that no human is perfect. Maybe he felt that he was a great person. But you have to remember, we live as social creatures.
I am writing this post so that all of us at POB know the negative traits that we are not aware of. Whether it's the CEO of the project POB, the POB community, investors in the POB. So that we can eliminate the negative traits in the POB platform, so that we can make the POB platform grow together. ;)