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The size of body parts feature a lot in talks about sex, sexual competence and sexual pleasure. We all know the specific body parts I'm talking about: the penis, the vagina, the ass, the boobs, and overall size too which has to do with being fat or slim. All these talks about the size of body parts as it has to do with sex has brought about the common phrase 'size matters'. People ask 'does size matter?' some reply 'size matters', others say 'size does not matter'.(Whatever ~~rocks~~ wanks their boat).

And, oh, the simple answer to this mystery is the reply: Whatever Wanks your Boat

But if you listen to the media, 'whatever wanks your boat' would be about the last answer that you'll find. This is because certain body sizes and shapes have come to dominate the media and these shapes and sizes are usually put forward as the ideal shapes/sizes and other shapes/sizes apart from them are inferior/undesirable. This is quite saddening so you see why we have to discuss about it?

We all know the certain shapes/sizes that have come to dominate the media.

For Males

When it comes to males we hear a lot of talk about having a big dick and a big dick being the ideal stuff to have, anything other than a big dick is deemed unfortunate and laughable. A lot of praises are heaped on big dicks and smaller dicks are ridiculed. We hear rappers brag about having big huge dicks, we see a lot of ads talking about having the solution that would enlarge your dick and tells you a smaller dick is a problem you need to get rid of, on social media and every social commentary or forum it is common to see people praising bigger dicks and mocking smaller ones whenever the chance comes up.

Rapper Dave Burd (Lil Dicky) is a comic rapper and wanted to chose a funny/ridiculous name for his rap career and came up with the name 'Lil Dicky' and it turned out to be such a successful funny name because it toed the path of the small dick joke.

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For Females

For females there are actually two different media trends that tells the woman the ideal body. The first trend says she mainly has to be slim while the second trend says she has to be thick and possess a lot of ass and titties.

These both trends exist and run the show on the media, but the one that rules the most and put the most pressure is the second one. The first one only pressures the fat girls, the second one pressures everybody including those who meet the standards of the first one. We see a lot of praise in the general media, music, social media platforms for big ass and titties and a clear assertion that that is the ideal body and the major type of body worth having.

This trend has sent a lot of girls to the gym to build their asses and a great many others to the surgeon. Plastic Surgery! Silicon, implants, Enhacements.

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So many celebrities do it, flaunt it and the trend rages on. ~~Butt~~ But, are these the 'ideal'?

Whatever Wanks Your Boat

Whatever wanks your boat is wisdom from the ancient sages, it is just another way of saying: 'to each, his own' or 'whatever you like' or 'one man's food is another man's poison' or 'whatever pleases you'.

Based on the fact that these particular types of bodies/body parts shapes/sizes have come to gain a high status in the media and in the mouths of most people they have become the ideal if what you want is to gain the respect/recognition of the media and the popular/noisy vote. But if you're not chasing that, if you just want to live a happy life and get a partner/partners that are attracted to you and love to have sex with you then you're good to go just the way you are.

Because those bodies that are dominating the media are simply a hype. Those are just the bodies that have come to be associated with being ideal and many people who sing praises for those bodies don't even like those bodies or prefer it to other body types, but they sing the praises because it is the culture and those bodies have somehow come to be associated with being ideal. There are many ways things become in vogue and it doesn't all depend on it's quality or it's being the best. Don't get me wrong, a lot of people would actually like it and maybe the most people would like it but that doesn't mean it is in anyway the best or in anyway the only good one and it also doesn't mean that other counterparts of it's are worthless.

A great many people love other body shapes/sizes that are not the talk of the media. A lot of people like small dicks, small boobs and booties, fat girls, skinny girls. It all depends on personal taste and these bodies that are not in vogue also have a great many fans is what I'm saying.

Small Dicks

The same way some guys have small dicks and others have bigger dicks is the same way some girls have small pussy holes and some girls have bigger ones. During penetration if the dick and the pussy hole does not fit that's where there's usually a problem. If the dick is too small for the pussy hole that is messed up, if it is too big for it that is messed up too!

The dick being too small means lesser friction, too big means too much friction. At least 90% girls who complain about small dicks are girls who have bigger pussy holes and so they need a bigger dick to fill it and give them the required friction. Meanwhile the girls with smaller pussy holes want a smaller dick for their pussy and at least 90% of them too would complain if your dick is big.

Many guys with big dicks have stories of girls who like them for it and other stories of girls who avoid them for it and complain. One story I've heard so much is about how they'd go into a room with a girl for the first time, do and the foreplay and when they pull out their dicks the girl would see it and say she no longer wants to fuck cos the dick is too big.

The reason why complaints about small dicks are being heard more than complaints about big dicks should simply be the fact that the word 'small' is already quite negative on it's own, you hear it in 'small money', 'small house', 'small turnout', etc. 'Small' is already negative, so those who don't want a small dick feel way more justified to complain about a small thing. Those who don't want a big dick don't feel so justified to complain about a big thing because the word 'big' has a lot of positive connotation and denotation to it.

Many girls who even come out in the media to complain about small dicks don't like big dicks, they'll scream in pains and say no more if they get a big dick but they're just out there alligning with the positive and negative connotations of big and small and just following the popular talk.

Small Boobs and Booties

Many guys love small boobs and booties too, but because of what I about what we associate with the words 'small' and 'big', those who like small are not so loud on social media and stuff. The loud ones are those who like them big. Also many of those who praise big ones don't even like them big but are just alligning with the popular and being swayed by the connotations of the words big and small.

Legendary rapper the Notorious Big was known for talking about his desire for girls with big booties,in the song called Machine Gun Funk he said:

All I want is bitches, big booty bitches.

He even released a song called Big Booty Hoes featuring another rapper called Too Short. This was the hook given by Too Short:

All I want is hoes, big booty hoes..
All I want is hoes, big booty hoes...

But take a look at the women they married:

The Notorious Big's Wife, Faith Evans:

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Too Short's Wife, Erica Escarcega:

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_{Not a clear photo her ass (couldn't find any), but she's definitely not a big booty hoe, here's her measurement 33-26-35 source}

You would have thought these would be their wives:

_{Source: a dirty group I belong to on Facebook 😉}

Or maybe a girl with a big ass and a certifying tattoo from the Federal Ministry of Booty Affairs (FMBA):

_{Source: another dirty group I belong to on Facebook 😉}

Fat Girls

Many men also love fat girls and would take them over other type of girls. (This research carried out by The Journal of Sex Research tells you about it) but the trend of mocking fat girls has a strong hold in society and many men who who even love fat girls are ashamed of it. Luckily, though, all these are changing.

So what about what I said about the word 'big', aren't fat girls called 'big'? Yea, they're called big but since when? People use 'big' these days just to avoid saying 'fat', that's how good the word 'big' is that in this case it is being used as a euphemism for fat people.

In Conclusion

Hey, people, like hey! Whatever Wanks your boat, people. Also, many people like more than one type of body size/shape. Go out there and like what you like, don't shame the ones you don't like because they are there to fulfil the needs of others who yearn for them. And you didn't play a part in chosing what you like, you were just born into the world and you found out you're more attracted to this than that naturally, you didn't chose. The very thing you're shaming you would have found yourself yearning for it if the dice simply rolled it. It's all left to chance, all the reasons you give for why you like what you like are hogwash. It's all chance!

Further, If you like something speak up regularly about it too, fuck what society or the media says about that stuff, they say it out of foolishness and ignorance, don't be scared of other people's foolishness and ignorance.

Accept your damn self too, if you want to change you're free though, but you might want to rather accept yourself and kick it with the people who like what you have. Peace!

Check out the first Edition of my Sex Education Series about the Male Nipple:

The Male Nipple

SEX EDUCATION #2: Size Matters?/Size of Body Parts and Sex