Being a parent is not only tough, but it comes with its own set of somehow irresolvable challenges. People run away from being a parent even when they say having a child is a blessing and you can die for that smile. So what's the deal with being a parent, why is it so fearful and why do couples run away from it?
Now that I am a parent myself, let me try and answer these questions for you.
Being a parent comes with a lot of blessings as well as challenges and those are tough to handle. It's a complete responsibility of a new person who doesn't know any god damn thing and you literally are responsible to teach him all. Back in time, women of the house weren't working and so they had enough time to spend with their children, play with them and teach them. But these days when both the parents are working, it's difficult to manage the child and there comes the challenges.
- Being a parent means you have to accept a third person between you and your better half. This is the most difficult part because it's a big-time trade-off for the one you have been loving the most over years. Anyone else coming in between and sharing that love is not acceptable.
- Lot of compromises and sacrifices are involved like sleep, eating habits for a feeding mother, travel restriction, touching shit. It's mandatory and not easy, trust me.
- Managing a baby is like dealing with an insane person who doesn't know what he is doing, who is he hurting, and what could be the consequences. They would pull your hair, bite you hard and you can't make them understand that this is something they should not do.
- You have no ME time. We all love our Me time, we use to talk to our friends, watch tv, apply nail polish, or just sit and chill. Once you have a baby, you don't get your time at all.
All the above points are coming from an experienced mom and trust me they are true to the core. But still we all want to have kids because it's a special feeling, they make you smile, they look like you and they are yours.
Don't be scared, it's a fun phase of life :)