In a world that's very tough to live in, where 60% majorly cares about their own self, where they derieve plessure in bring someone down instead of trying to raise up. This is a world we find ourself in right now and this has led to the upraising of mental health issues also paving way to suicidal thougts and also suicide.
I knew mental health was a big thing when suicides became rampant in Nigeria. Don't get me wrong, I know it doesn't care about your race or nationality but I used to look at Nigerians as strong set of race that can withstand anything thrown at us but I guess this is a big issue because I also fell into depression sometime back that was when I realised what individuals go through secretely.
After some research and from personal experiences, I came up with this write up.
What is SUICIDE??
Suicide is act of taking one's lifeintentionally. As I said earlier, it happens in all societies and by all kinds of people.
Why do people take their life or commit suicide...
- Loss of all hopes.
- Emotional Pain.
- Shame.
- Negleted or Not loved.
- Anger.
- Abused.
All these listed above are some of the causes why people Youths in particular try to take their own life. When I was passing through a bit of depression back then, mine was mainly loss of hopes. I would sit in my room back then and start thinking it got worst when I had to shut down my business and that same time, I lost 180k to online scammers (was trying to sell bitcoin through binance). I was like where will I start from? What will I do? I couldn't talk to anyone because it felt shameful and all. I seriously don't how a friend of sensed it then she called me asking what was wrong so I told her.
One of the ways in dealing with mental issues is finding the right person to talk to. This can be the difficult part since the person would have a listening ear, non judgemental attitude, calm voice and a way to make everything seem okay. The bible also recorded some individuals that took their life so ypou can see that it's not something one should joke with. The great Elijah wanted to die and requested God to take his life, Saul died out of shame when he lost a battle and didn't want his enemies to take him as a prisoner, he took his own life.
Let's talk about some warning signs shown by people considering suicide.
- Withdrawal, they like to issolate themselves from the world always like to be left alone.
- Try to pick meanings in the words of your friends because they might unconciously leave hints whgen talking.
- They neglect taking care of themselves such as, they don't eat, dress nicely anymore amongst others.
Not every really gives out signs of suicidal thoughts, but please if they do, them them seriously.
How can we help..
- Do not preech to them or try to lecture them. Let them know they are in safe space.
- Ask questions and let them talk freely.
- Help them find a way of releasing the pain. Tears are good. Crying helps a whole lot.
- Try to keep them safe.
- Build hope. Let them see the beauty of life. Remember, where there is life, there is hope.
- If you think it is above you, get them an additional support a trained personnel recall that you are just a first aider.
Most importantly, let them know that God still loves you even if that suition doesn't seem like so.
If they are angry at Him, they should go on their knees and just cry if no words is coming to mind. Trust me, it works big time.
I guess that is all for now. If you might be going through depression and you probably need someone to talk to, I will be happy to talk to you and if you feel you need more help, I heard there are some terapists on instagram so feel free to check them out.
Be Strong
You will be okay. Remember that a gold goes through the thoughtest process to become so shiny.
Till next time, I still remain trojan.
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