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Trust? What do you understand by the word trust and what's is your personal experience with something or people you might have trusted in the past?

TRUST

Trust in a simple context is all about reliability on something or someone. Knowing it will come through.

Generally everyone would have different opinions on this but it all boils down the to the same meaning, reliability.

PERSONAL EXPERIENCES

• I have had alot of experiences with people and things in general, believe when i say this "sometimes trusting people or having high hopes one something often disappoints".
  Years back i used to have an affair with this particular girl, who claimed she loved me and all. I believed her because then i easily trusted people as i had just very little experience about people and life. We started dating and everything seemed quite okay, but till one day a friend of mine from the same class. This happened during my secondary school days, so a friend of mine which both of us seats close to each other both in class, exams etc was also dating the same girl. Unknown to me i normally see them together and made nothing out of it because he was more or a best friend to me and i trusted the girl based on her words, which she swore to me that she wouldnt cheat on me and others. Anyways days kept growing to weeks and one day i had the liberty to confront the girl, i told her the places i see you and my friends sometimes i don't like it and besides what are you both always discussing everyday? She was like nothing, can't she get close to me friend and all that? I said fine. This kept going on till one day another guy from my class caught them kissing, came and told me what he saw. I doubted him the first day, but couldn't ask the girl because i trusted her , i didn't believe she would betray me that way. Days rolled by and i started getting alot of reports from many guys from my class about what they caught both of them doing, till one day i decided to see things for myself. I quietly went to the corner where the both of them always hang out and saw both of them kissing, after the guy had said thrash about me and all.
  I couldn't hold it any longer, i interrupted them and they both were shocked. I told them i heard everything they said no need to deny anything because the girl has already started lying that the guy forced her into kissing him and all other lies that were fleeing from her mouth. I was heartbroken because i never saw it coming atleast not with someone i know.
  I was devastated but that didn't stop me from keeping my head up high and moved on with my life. Even though she came begging a number of times but i didn't buy any of that and never forgave her.

When trust is broken , sorry becomes useless.

• Second time my trust was broken was also with another girl years later, this one actually slept with another man more times than i can remember till i caught them one day on the act.

There lots and lots of experiences i have had with people that made me hate people more, that's the reason why presently i don't have a best friend. I choose to battle and face my fears alone.
After that day i declared to myself never to trust anyone, no matter how close we are or how much bond we share because of my past experiences trusting people became a problem to me till date.
You might as well say i have trust issues, yes i do because of what i have encountered with people in my life journey.

Trust is something earn , same as respect. You can't any of them rather you earn them. Once the bridge of trust has been broken, you can't earn it back no matter how hard you try.

MORAL LESSON:

• In all fairness you must learn to trust yourself first before you can trust someone else, and before you trust anyone make sure they deserve it.
  Never trust someone who can't stand up for you when you are not there to defend your image. Also never trust anyone that tells you what they say behind your back.
  I am not saying that you shouldn't trust anyone at all , I know there are good people out there who would being out the best in you and always fight for your interest. But they are very rare and hard to find, if you have such a person as friend, partner or as anything at all. Never let them go because you won't find another as them.
  So trust wisely and make sure who you are trusting and entrusting yourself to is worth it.
  The world is evil and there will always be people who doesn't want your progress, people who would want to pull you down by all means. They are always there in our life's, as our so called friends but we can't tell because they are camellions.
  They act nice infront of you and spoil your name behind you.

To the best of my knowledge our families are always the ones that stands up for us, with or without our consent believe it or not.

So that's all i have today for trust and my personal experience with it, which i shared just 2 of them for better insight in the topic.
Believe there are morethan a thousand and one of them where my trust has been betrayed by people, behind me and right in front of me.
So i learned from my own mistakes, dusted myself up and moved on with my life because i am the only one accountable for my life and actions.

Thank you and do have a blissful weekend ahead 🥰