Let's go for a walk. I invited a friend for coffee. Meetings between friends are always necessary. Many times these actions are misunderstood, but what everyone ignores is how good it is to talk to a friend.
Beyond a feeling, we cannot even imagine that with a simple coffee we can save a person's life or even our own.
My friend accepted the invitation. Months before we used to walk together on the mountain trails, but work took her time and maybe also her disposition.
When I saw her I hugged her tight. I felt we both needed it. However, there was a strange shiver as the action took place. Without realizing it, my eyes filled with tears. A bad feeling made my heart race.
I kept calm and positive thoughts. The day would be fabulous with my wonderful friend - it had been so long without seeing each other, without talking, without telling our intimacies!
A cup of coffee is enough to trigger any good or bad memory. At this moment it doesn't matter but the reunion with that person with whom you shared your childhood. Obviously, after so long we would only like to hear good things, but life does not thrive on one way.
There was room for conversation. My friend was much more anxious than I was, I could tell right away. His smile on his lips lasted as long as it took the waiter to bring the coffee to our table. At the first sip of coffee, what I had feared happened.
Behind a small curtain of smoke expelled by the hot coffee, a tear appeared in my friend's eye, then a sigh escaped her and finally the faintness of her arms resting abruptly on the table with her head down.
How to avoid sadness when you just want to share a moment of joy? It is inevitable. The important thing is not to please one's own desires but to attend to the desire of others. In this case the wish of my friend who only wanted to cry to let go of her sadness, anger and bitterness deserved attention.
Years dedicated to one person went down the drain in the blink of an eye. Years of believing in a stable and happy marriage when in reality, for a few years now, it had fractured, but she was ignored.
Guilt, ingratitude, impotence, anger echoed in my ears. But according to her, whose fault is it?
With every word that came out of her I knew who she was holding responsible.
You are my friend and you know it but I can't keep quiet in a situation as complex as this. When the relationship is between two, both are responsible. The balance cannot be tipped to one side because in that case we only look from one angle, from the visceral side, the reptilian thinking and we do not do justice to the problem.
Although the cup of coffee turned into tears and pain, it also demanded a calm and compassionate look. Pain brings us down, finishes us, kills us, but a cup of coffee revives us, gives us light, revives us.
Everything in life has a solution. Sorrows cannot be eternal, they are transitory, they pass, they move away and are forgotten to give way to new adventures.
If you feel happy or suffer a disappointment, do not forget to invite a friend to have a good coffee, sweet, salty or bitter.