Wow! I am super excited to participate in this last topic for week 70. Self denial. For me is a little bit tasky because I have to do a lot of thinking before coming up with something. Don't get me wrong. We all go through self denial sometimes even on daily basis, but I was actually thinking of what exactly to share with the house that others can draw a lesson from it.
For me talking about self denial, I have actually denial myself of all the money that I have been making in the hive Blockchain just for the family. Apart from the big phone that I am using now, I can't see any other thing that I have used the money that I have been making through hive to do for myself. And the reason for the phone is because is needed for the work to move smoothly. So, looking around me and I saw that the family needed a house badly. We have tried to build a house before now, but what we did not understand with my husband is that when your children starts growing up and responsibilities keep increasing, you may not be able to put a structure down especially if you are not Financially balance. So we came to a level and we just discovered that we can't do this again. Not with these kids making more demands everyday. Somehow we forget about it. But I was never satisfied with the way things are and I kept believing God for a miracle.
I was also lucky to get that last MPower job. That is a job that is meant to empower people Incase you don't understand. Though the pay for that job don't always come when is expected, but thank God that they pay us once on two or three months. So combining the money from hive and the one that comes from NPOWER, I started the building of our house.
At that time my husband was already tired of living in the North, he kept saying that nothing is working for him. The worse part for me is the issue of moving down home to the east. Not just anywhere ohh! But going down to their village that you will spend like seven hundred naira before you get to the town. No business to do there unless caring some food stuff to the market on their market day. So, because of the way things were going, I was looking for a way to make him stop thinking about moving down home and settle here especially for the sake of the kids that needs good education that we can't get in the village there.
We know what was right for us, yet we chose to do otherwise?
Of course the right thing for me to do was to use my money to take good care of myself, maybe reserve some for the family. But that was not an option at that time. I needed to put something right, and that is raising a structure for the family.
It was funny because I started that project without my husband's knowledge. I just knew that at that point, his faith can't carry it. So, I decided to move alone. I also wanted to surprise him. I started the building project. I called an engineer, we went to the land and the work started immediately. Both clearing the land and digging the foundation took us three days. Then the main work started and the foundation for four rooms and a big parlour was laid. It was at this point that my husband get to know about the work and he came to the land one after when the foundation was almost completed.
How were you able to escape it?
For this one, no escape. I am there until everything is finished. Everything I get will still go in there until the work is completed. Even though I call it a self denial, yet is still for my own good.
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This post was inspired by the hive learners community contest for week 70 edition 3 titled Self -Denial.