We all disagree to agree at some point and if disagreement did not come up in some situations, our best will not be out. One might bring out his opinion thinking that it is the best, but when someone else opposizes him or her the issue on grand will not be given a second thought. I also Believe that why some times we fail in what we are doing is because we don't have opposing opinions that will help us to think straight.
As long as we have heterogeneous people in our society, we can not run away from diversity of options. We have different people with different schools of thought, we must have everyone seeing things differently. The issue for me here is how do I get to deal with diversities of options? If only I can know how to deal with it, then it will go along way helping us to move together as a team wherever we find ourselves.
A VERY PRACTICAL EXAMPLE IN MY HOUSE.
It is more visible in a family where we have Mom and dad from different backgrounds. Because they were all raised differently, then they must have different opinions when it comes to certain issues in life.
My husband never believed that a woman who is married should still pursue her dreams. It should be now about the children alone. But I don't buy that idea. I believe that God created me to be something very special in this life and I can still achieve that even though I am married. And you know as a woman I need to just submit to my husband's opinion. Of cause that is African for us. When I finally made up my mind that I was going back to school, it was a task that will be achieved easily. I had to struggle and kept struggling until finally I was permitted to go to school. Not because it was the right thing for me to do, but because I was the stubborn type. This is just what lots of people are going through. Because of the philosophies we grew up with. Today my husband is the most happiest man on earth because his wife is Educated. But if I had submitted to what he said back then, we will not be here celebrating the victory today. When you hear him talking, he will always tell people that even though he is not Educated, his wife is a graduate and that he is very proud of that. He kept saying it even tommy hearing that he is very happy because I am educated.
SITUATIONS WHEN WE ALL HAD THE SAME OPINION.
In marriage, even when we disagree sometimes, there are still some sweet moment when we agree and move together as a team.
My second daughter that just graduated from College of Education Akwanga, wanted to go and live with someone in another city so that she can search for a job. When she told my husband, he quickly said no to that. I was not even aware of that when she came to me and said the same thing, I still said no to her before I even get to know that her father had already said no to her request. When she noticed that both of us are not willing to let her go, she just relax and never mentioned it again.
We did not say no because we don't want her to go out of our reach, but because we felt it wasn't the right time for us to release her to face the larger would. She still has alot to learn from us and I she is not mentally ready to go all by herself.
This post was inspired by the hive learners community contest for week 89 edition 2. Diversity of options.
