This week 210 prompts makes me feel like this week is for self-reflection. From knowing the attitude we have that is the same as what people knows us to be upto knowing the level of our anger appetite.
Like a popular saying which I'll quote first.
There are two times you should be watchful of what to say:
- When you are happy
- And when you are angry"
There's a reason.....
For me, I would say anger is faraway to me but I can easily be hurt by something especially when it's from someone close to me. That doesn't mean I get angry or act angrily but I would just activate my silence mode and not talk till I'm calm and cool to talk about it.
Sometimes, I think about it in the sense that, this person may not even know that they've done something wrong, just like in the case of a friend that I shared in a prompt for Ladiesofhive community that did something bad which got to me seriously if which he wasn't even aware about until I mentioned it.
But for me, I believe in not reacting to issues immediately so as to avoid unnecessary drama and also regretting what I say whenever I am back to factory settings.
You know those situations when you say something out of anger and later on when your nerves are relaxed and back to normal, you start reflecting on those words and start hitting yourself hard or covering your face with your palms with the thoughts or spoken words of "ah gosh! You shouldn't have said that... Ah and my mind was telling me not to talk o... This thing shouldn't have escalated like this etc.
Even when I'm on the right side and deserved apology a million times from the person, but for the fact that I said something I later regretted saying, I will feel indebted to apologize to the person or to preach clarity and see if the person didn't take my words to heart.
I think this act affects me a lot and for me I guess it's bad cos aside my facial expression that speaks this person has been offended, I would rather keep it in till my mind is calm to talk about it. Though it helped me in controlling situations that could have made me act angrily and misbehaved countless times but you know, no matter what character one possesses, some will know it for you to be who you are while some will take it for granted especially when it comes to these opposite gender, lol.
So it really do take a while before you see me get angry like angry angry and the day I am seen displaying anger, then it is well. Even my anger still looks cute sha, lol and for every time I get angry, I try as much as possible to follow my heart when it says filter your words.
Just like today when I was in park and one of the terminal guys hit this young girl's buttocks and the girl insulted the man seriously in return. Only then did the other park guys started ganging up on the girl that what she said was too much and then, I angrily came in shutting them up on why they would ask the girl not to talk when she was being harassed (fight that doesn't concern me o, lol but it was necessary at that moment).
So unless it's necessary and up to my last border of what I can endure, I don't get angry unnecessarily and when I do, my secret code to calm down and melt the anger lies in having a talk and me smiling. Even if it was or is a mountain of anger in me, it dissolves immediately.
I will be closing this article with this; everyone possesses the spirit of anger in them, either we nurtured it big or we deprived it of rapid growth but the main and important thing is how we ensure to control it and not the anger controlling us is what makes us unique.
I'll be dropping my 🖊️ here on the Hive Learners community prompt
Thank you for reading through 🤗
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