Everyone with what guides them to live their lives. Some are created with the previous experiences they had with people or the environment they grew up in and sincerely looking through how some families are built, friendship sailing and sinking, marriages crumbling and working out, workplace excelling and downsizing, it's really worth living by something you know would work for you in having a meaningful and successful life at the end of the day.
I can say the motto I came by to start living with was not present at the beginning of my life or since inception of when I know right from wrong, but it came in at the point where I started to realize that life is not always the same way you painted it to be in your mind. The world does not run like a simple arithmetic of 1 + 1 = 2 because most times, that might end up giving you 11 and you will be shocked at how that could ever happen.
Growing up, I can say I was naive and always lived like an innocent person though I was actually innocent, with a plain board of offences, not ready to hurt anyone and living my life as private as I could. Infact I barely talk and you would always find me reading or writing. That was how I found myself growing up and my believe then was that everyone was the same way I was back then until I realized it was never done that way.
After so many experiences with humans, those I called friends right from primary till date, chochocho talkative neighbors saying what they don't know (cos that too is one of the major experiences I had with humans), relationships with people and all, I had a discussion with a godmother oneday and in the course of the conversation, she said something that stayed with me till now and forever do us part. She said "humans will always be humans" hmmm.
She noticed how I was hurting as I shared my experiences with people who had treated me bad despite being plain and being good with them, especially close people and then she started to share her own experiences with me.
She made me know the reality of life that everyone had a taste of this cake but as long as I have it in my mind ALWAYS that humans will always be humans then nothing and absolutely nothing that anyone does would hurt me that much because I had already placed them on the seat of human in the first place.
Her point really stayed with me and sticked to my brain and since then I had made it cross my head and mind at every slightest seconds till it became a part of me as a motto I live by.
Now, I get to easily transition from what anyone does to me and move on to neutral feelings. I moved on not because I forgot what they did or the impact of what they did to me but because I had forgiven them already, placed them on a seat of being a human and they will always be a human. So I no longer feel hurt so much like I used to be.
This might be of help to anyone else reading this and you my want to emulate same motto as well that "HUMANS WILL ALWAYS BE HUMANS"
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