I will lift up my eyes unto the hills, from whence cometh my help?
In this world of struggles and hurdles, we all need ourselves to survive especially when we find ourselves in some situations that needs quick interventions but we are short of the solution to provide.
So, when it comes to situations like this and seeking help, am I the type that is fast or is easy for to seek for help or not?
I think in one of my articles in the past month or so, there was a part I talked about how it was hard for me to even ask my parents for my needs and wants as a child and how a friend even came about tagging me as been proud since I find it hard to ask for help when I need any as long as it has to do with money.
Thank God for my clarity there (fiscal aspect) cos I am very sure that if I need your help in getting answers to something bothering or confusing me, see me as the first person to ask you unless I see you as a busy person which might make me feel reluctant in disturbing you often.
Do I need help in using a stone to kill two birds and you're in custody of that stone to make me feel relieved of the stress I might pass through doing it myself, I will humbly ask for your help.
But whenever it comes to issues relating to financial involvement, I don't know why I find it hard to ask for help. At times in the past, I do reason it like is it because I don't like NO for an answer or feel rejected? I know it's not that but seriously, I still don't know the why myself but all I know is that I'm not the type that easily ask for financial help.
Probably, my empathy spirit is too high or I'm over assuming things cos I feel like as long as I'm struggling financially, someone else or the person I want to ask might probably be struggling too but not showing it just like some people still see me as someone who isn't struggling and feel like everything is okay with me financially (I don't know why though).
This makes me remember the day I and my childhood friend was having a conversation one day and it was around this same prompt and the response she gave me shocked me.
She said and I quote
It's hard to know when you need help cos by the time you're sharing a problem you have, you've already solved it.
Which is true but it's actually not because I didn't want to ask for their help but because I know everyone has their 1 or 2 that they are passing through and trying effortlessly to patch up so that things can look fine on the outside. So why bother them with my problems especially those that I know might want to go overboard to help even if they are trying hard to sort their own problems again. It's not fair to be a burden on them and that's has been my so-called assumptions which has led me this far.
So far, I'll say I had the benefits of reaching out for help whenever I eventually reach out for one and the benefit is that, they will go out in all to help me out since they know that I don't really do that and for me to ask means I had no way out to solve it while the pitfall has been me solving my problems all alone.
I'm not trying to establish the fact that asking for help is wrong or not ideal cos we are people of different personalities and perspectives and that's why we can't act the same no matter how good it is.
I ask for help but not as fast or as easy as it may be for someone else.
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Thank you for reading through 🤗
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