Decision making is just like taking up a leadership position whether it's in your personal life,academics in your family, relationships, work, business etc.
This is because at the end of the day you have only yourself to blame or praise for the success and failure of these decisions.
I have watched my uncles and grandmother wait for my father who was the head of the family before making any major decision. During the time spent with my family in the past Christmas celebration there was a man that came to our compound to ask that he park his car inside our compound because it got spoilt thus he couldn't continue his journey with his car. It was just I and my senior sister at home but we knew it was very risky for us to make that kind of decision on our own subsequently we told the man to wait till my brother comes back so that he can tell him himself.
The reason we refused to take any decision on the matter were because
We felt pity for the man and really want to offer him help in the best possible way that we can.
Yet because of the rate of insecurity in the region one need to be very extra careful while dealing with strangers especially those who appear lost and desperate for help.
The man on the other part refused to wait and how his faulty car started functioning again remained a mystery to us. This happened around 8:30pm in the night and we were glad in the way we handled the matter.
Decisions once they are taken can either make you happy or mar you thus there are lots of things that I put into consideration before making a decision and few of them are :
Don't Make Decision When You Are Angry: this right here have sent many people to their early grave and have some living in regret for the rest of their life. Anger is an unpleasant emotion that is capable of driving one into very extreme actions. Many are rotting away in prison because they overreacted and made the worst decision of their lives. No good decisions can be make when one is overcrowded with that kind of unpleasant emotion because it defiles all forms of reasoning. So my number one step is to never make any decision when I am angry.
Seek Advice: When it comes to grave and complicated matters it is important that we don't take decisions by ourselves. Sometimes hearing the opinion of others who are more experienced in the field will help us to make the best decision out of very situation. It is paramount to know that it's not just anybody that you should go to for advice this is because some will end up adding more salt to the injury. I know of a woman that went to complain to her friend about her husband's behavior. The friend advised her to leave the marriage and she did. She regretted ever going to her friend for advice when that friend ended up marrying that same husband she advised her to leave.
How Long It Takes Me To Make Major Decision?
It takes me atleast three days to make major decisions. In these three days I must have called the right people for advice and also pondered on my own personal thoughts about the matter before taking a final decision.
Coping With Disappointed Coming From My Decisions.
In occasions where my decisions turned out to be not so good i will simply not beat up myself so much for making such poor decisions or apportion blame. I will also learn from it as it's an avenue to become wiser. Every failure is an opportunity to learn how to do it right the next time.