I think having the 'victim' mentality is taught and not learned. Being a victim is something that happens to one as opposed to placing oneself as a victim which requires an understanding of fault and responsibility. I've had a friendship end because they often depicted them self as the victim but never the one responsible which when I pointed this out they then wanted nothing to do with me.

It's hard to navigate around others that project this mentality onto others but I think having an understanding of responsibilities in self action can help thwart any attempt of 'self victimization'.

Thank you for your post.