Hello lovelies, welcome to the 65th edition of hive learners.
While growing up I have seen alot of marriages, like....it gave me the wrong impression about marriage,alot of people fall into trap because their didn't show their true nature,marriages fail due to so many reasons like unfaithfulness, deception,no genuine love, abuse like verbal abuse, violence like emotional violence or physical violence, envying one's partner, extreme jealousy and so on.
For some marriage is beautiful while to some marriage is hell,infact so many people are complaining about their marriages more than the people that are enjoying it.
I will sight an example,I will use my aunt as an example,my aunt married this man but she didn't know then that he was a violent man because he hid his true identity,this man after my aunt gave birth to her first son,he started showing his true colours, anytime there is any issue instead of them to solve it amicably,the man will throw few punches or abuse her emotionally/verbally.
He started going out with other ladies,the last one that made my aunt leave him was when he beat her after her third son,it was really crazy,she left him and never went back to him.
Those are the fears of marriage, being afraid that anything can happen after marriage,the man or woman can change leaving his/her partner dazed with new attitudes/character,it's alarming.
Right from childhood I never wanted to rush into anything called marriage,I could remember I told my mom then that anytime I want to get married it will be like 28/29years and she was like why? I said I just want to be single for some time and watch well because I don't want to fall into any marriage trap.
You know this gospel singer that died last two years,the husband was envious of her to the extent of beating that woman always,it really destroyed her career and ended her life,it's really frustrating to know that the man you are living with or the woman you called your wife doesn't want good things for you,they get angry when you achieve anything,it is really disappointing.
Alot of married couples will tell you that it was not how they pictured it,what they pictured before getting married is not what they are experiencing, some will picture late night dinner at a restaurant or surprise gifts or vacations or the husband or the wife being extra ordinarily nice but at the end of the day they realize all those where just how they wanted it but now this is the real picture,the real deal.
Even those that are still enjoying their marriages are not seeing what they pictured then.
So I have learnt in my years of growing up from married couples that to some marriage is a beautiful thing while to alot marriage is like hell.
Sometimes I feel like it's worth all the troubles and another time I feel like it's not worth all the troubles but then no one ever pictured a bad marriage, everyone pictured a good marriage so it actually worth the effort.
We should just pray not to fall victims of bad marriage,and we should enjoy marital bliss.