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The decision to not physically discipline kids nowadays, is both good and bad, depending on what exactly the parents are replacing with that form of discipline. And from what I've seen, a lot of parents don't have the time and even the wisdom to teach these children the right thing to do.
It would breed irresponsible kids, no doubt.Parenting is more than disciplining by rod, what parents say and what parents do, goes a long way in driving off the foolishness in the hearts of their children. We all know there are children who had constant physical discipline but still turn out irresponsible as adults because the parents failed to teach what exactly they were correcting.
we tend to see some parents not involved in physical discipline but petting children whenever they go wrong. If we spare the rod, the child will spoil. I remember the olden days, when physical discipline was highly recommended, children were well brought up with fear and respect accorded in humility. Children then learned patience, hard work, and honoring their parents and people outside.
Teachers would discipline a child with Cain and the child will behave.Physical discipline is not the only prerequisite for disciplining children. But prayers are involved. I learned this from my mother. When our stubbornness is too much, she would go inside and pray, mentioning our names in prayer, declaring the word of God upon our lives.
This action of my mum made me understand that physical discipline is as important as prayers.If you don’t let your children understand the consequences of their actions, if you make them see the world as only a good place without preparing them for the hard parts of life, they may grow into adults who cannot take care of themselves without their parents. And the blame will fall on you.
When it comes to physical discipline, I don’t believe it is as bad as some people paint it to be, but there must always be limits. It should never become a habit whenever a child makes the slightest mistake. A child can eventually grow beyond that pain, and the cane or whatever is used for punishment will no longer scare them.
Discipling a child is one of the many ways parents get it wrong. Some overdo it, some underdo it, some do not do it at all, and each and every one of these actions play a very significant role in the life of a child. I would say for me, my mum over did it at a point, and underdid it at a point. My dad did not even do it in the major part of my life and when he tried to, he more than overdid it.
This put a very big dent in our relationship even to date. In my opinion, there is a time and season for raising a child, training a child, and being friends with your child. It’s not just a matter of age, it is knowing when your child has moved from one point to another. A lot of parents try to be friends with their children at a very early age, and these parents end up not knowing how to train their children at the end of the day because you can’t train your friends, they won’t listen to you.
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