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Today, I would be talking about personal pressure. For me, personal pressure is something that I've come to realize as both a driving force and a heavyweight burden that can come on every day. Most of it does not come from the outside world or people that we don't know; sometimes it comes from within, expectations that are too much and being a burden to us. I have built it in my own head that I will never put myself under so much pressure. Life will take its course, no matter how fast I grow or what my life looks like at certain stages.
I am someone who has always set high standards for myself. I don't believe in just settling for average goals, but I work with goals that require consistency and discipline. I believe that this will bring good results in the end. I want to be ahead, not just keeping up. My vision of the future is where I will be successful, financially stable, and well-known in my community, doing something meaningful. A vision that pushes me every day.
It will create a brighter picture for the future, but it will also create pressure because once you feel that pressure, you will see your vision very clearly. Anything less than that feels like lagging behind.
The major challenge is that life does not always follow the timeline that we give it. Things don't always work the way we expect them to. Things do not go according to plan most of the time. Effort is not always equal to the results we get, and when that happens, the reaction is always frustration. Everything replays in my head, thinking about what I could have done better and the right decisions that I could have made to achieve a better result.
There are so many times when I am hard on myself without even realizing it. I always look down on my progress and focus on what is missing. I start to compare myself with others, where they are, and I know that eventually I will be there too. But instead of appreciating my achievements and my little wins so far, I feel like I'm not doing enough.
As time goes by, I've noticed something important - that the impression that always pushes me forward would also slow me down if I let it turn into self-doubt and inferiority complex. Whenever I'm frustrated, I tend to lose clarity. I start overthinking instead of calming down to take the right actions, and that creates a circle of pressure, hesitation, procrastination, and many others instead of making progress.
I have come to the realization that not everything is within my control. There are times when you can plan, prepare, work hard, and do so many things, but they just don't work out the way you want them to. Unexpected events happen, unexpected changes occur. This does not mean that I'm a failure. It means that I am human and navigating a real life, not a perfectly scripted one.
Now I try to respond differently if things do not go as planned. Instead of immediately criticizing myself and starting to look down on myself, I take a step back and look at the situation carefully. I ask myself what actually went wrong and what I can learn from it so I do not repeat the mistake again. This will shift my mindset away from the pressure and make it look more constructive and reliable.
I can be too hard on myself sometimes, not because I expect a lot, but because if I ignore the effort behind the results, progress is not always visible in big moments, sometimes it is the small actions that may not feel impressive but matter in the end. I have started learning that it is okay to have high expectations; it is also important to learn to be patient with yourself, taking one step at a time. It is good to be ambitious and still allow yourself to grow properly. It is good to want more and still appreciate the little that we have achieved so far.
To wrap it all up, personal pressure is not something I would want to eradicate totally. It is part of life, it helps to keep me focused, and I am working on balancing it. I am looking to turn it into something that gives me passion without breaking me, holding myself accountable for my actions but also allowing myself to be human, improving through life and letting life walk with me.
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