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It's totally normal to wonder about what others think of you. Remember, everyone's opinion is subjective and influenced by their own experiences and perspectives. What truly matters is how you see and value yourself. Trust in your own worth and focus on being true to who you are, rather than seeking validation from others.
Assumption and opinion work hand in hand; well, we humans tend to have a lot of assumptions about people, maybe because of the people we see them associate with, their appearance, how quiet they are, or how they dress.
I'm someone who cares a lot about people's opinions. At some point in life, I struggled to be confident about myself, even with family around, I still walked around on eggshells. It was really draining. I'm just a girl who is free-spirited around people who understand, and I lock up when I feel like I'm not wanted. Despite all this, people still have their opinions and assumptions about me.
A lot of people live their lifes walking on egg shells because of people's opinions and assumptions about then. The fact is, that when in school, we have people who dress properly, style their hair, look neat, and stay on their own, pay attention in class, and always sit in the front row. I remember what we call them - "akada," which simply means they read a lot and know more than us.
But later on, you will find out that these people are the ones who carry "expo" into the exam hall just so they can write and pass. They go as far as microchipping the textbooks and handouts. Not all students are like this; don't misunderstand me. So based on our assumptions, they are very intelligent, and you see that it's not true at the end of the day.
Back then in school, people always assumed that I was the overly serious type of girl because I am always on my own. If I am not with my four friends, I am on my own. I don't really find it easy to mingle with others or start a conversation or join an ongoing conversation.
Well, their assumptions or opinions are right, but for real, that's not me. When I'm with my friends, I vibe well with them; we have lovely conversations, we talk, we laugh, talk about anything and everything, and you see me happy within my circle. But when they are not there, most of the time, I'm always a loner.
Outside school walls, it is the same thing. If I'm not around my friends, I am on my phone. I don't really pay attention to making friends around or hanging out and engaging in other activities. You only see the other side of me when I have my friends and my people around me. That's when you see the funny, the crazy, and the calm part of me.
Because at the end of the day, the people who really take the time to know you will understand you, and those are the ones that truly matter. So yeah, I see myself as a social and empathetic person, but not everyone sees that immediately. And I have learned that it’s okay. Not everybody will get you at first, and honestly, that’s just life.
Well, I'm working on changing the assumption or opinion that made people judge me as an overly serious person. Although it makes me have my respect and dignity intact, it's always good to interact more.
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