Talking about love is not my forte. What would a girl like me say about love anyway? However, we have all experienced love at some point and if you haven’t I hope you do. Now let’s talk about my first love.
It started after I finished secondary school and I was given access to a phone. 2go had just come out at that time so I was thrilled to get chatting on the internet. I opened my Facebook account a few months prior and was enjoying the experience. 2go was the next step to a more private chat.
I was active on 2go and used to join some nice groups to pass time and that was where I met him. We were a group of friends and we had our private group - I have forgotten how it works. Anyway, we started talking, got really close, and then it was time for me to write my JAMB.
He stayed close to the center, so we agreed to meet up for the first time after my exam. I finished the exam, called in and we talked a bit outside the center but I had to leave early because my dad was waiting for me. We were still friends at the time.
A few months after we had been talking to each other, we became so attached and for the first time, I started feeling something for the opposite sex. I didn’t get butterflies whenever I saw him, I just know he made me feel safe and comfortable being myself and I wanted to spend every moment talking to him.
Almost a year after we knew each other, he asked me to be his girlfriend officially, I didn’t hesitate to say yes. I know some people say it is good to play hard to get but I don’t play like that. If I want something and someone is offering, I don’t see the need to delay it any further. He was also surprised I said yes the first time he asked but he was happy all the same.
So we started dating, oh and I forgot to mention. I failed that JAMB woefully 😂😂 not my fault actually - that is another long story, but it happened. So we ended up dating for a few months before I registered for another Jamb. Our relationship was going so well, I was really strict then so I had many rules and he made sure to respect them despite his own needs.
I passed my second JAMB, wrote my Post-Utme and gained admission, and had to leave for school. I got to school and our bond was still strong until I started being exposed to some things and I realized I have been naïve this whole time. First, I found out he had been cheating on me - I would say it was partially my fault that I took so long to realize because there was a time he stylishly told me about it, I just didn’t care enough to inquire further.
Then I also realized he did not care about things concerning me. Mostly I was the one who loved him more hence I didn’t realize I was being played. Once I came to that realization I decided to stay a little longer. Maybe things will get better because I wasn't quite ready to let go.
I was at 200level when I decided I had had enough, everything suddenly felt off and I wasn’t ready to do it anymore. One night we had an argument and I told him I was done with the relationship and we should go our separate ways. He agreed and we called the whole thing off.
I wasn’t exactly heartbroken. I was hurt and missed him so much but I had other things to focus on, so there was no time to sit around crying for a guy, besides I was never one to do any of that. A few months later we started talking again but this time according to him he has tried other girls and he couldn’t find anyone to fill my place. Because I was not a person who gave second chances, I told him he didn’t have to try other people to realize I was good for him and therefore there was no getting back together even though I wanted it too.
Well, we decided to just be friends and from that time on we have stayed friends. Over the years our friendship has grown and sometimes we forget there was a time we were an item. I am so free with him, he tells me stuff no one else knows, he is still trying to get me back but that ship has sailed, so we are cool as just friends. I still think it would have been better if we stayed friends from the onset instead of dating.
I didn’t give anyone any chance in school after him. I was focused on school work and didn’t have time for boys. Besides, I realized I enjoyed my company more. The second relationship I tried after I graduated barely lasted 4 months. I just couldn’t give him any of the love I gave my first love. I am still friends with that one too. Although all our conversations always end with how I broke his heart, so we don’t talk much.
My present relationship is the best one yet. I fell in love again when I least expected it and I am glad I didn’t put it away as I have always done.
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