Anger can be destructive, just as well as it can be therapeutic. Anger can serve to bring about much-desired changes and it can also destroy structures that took a long time to come about. Anger is something that has to be on a tight leash at all times because if we are not careful, it has the ability to go out of control and then affect not just us, but a whole lot of other things as well.
Anger is that one thing that only a few minutes to destroy something that took decades to build. And then, seeing how negative it can be, there are times when we find it better to hold on to the anger, probably because that is the way that we would get solutions quicker. And then, there are times when we would have to let go of it because to keep on holding on would be toxic to us.
But then, there are people that no matter what they do, you can’t just stay angry at them. Everyone has that someone. Provided you have a heart and the blood that flows through your vein is red just like everybody else’s, then you have someone that has your mumu button. Which basically means you have people that have you wrapped around their fingers.
And I’m no different. When I first wanted to write on this topic, I had to think a while though. I had to think of the people in my life that could annoy me and there would be no feedback from me. I got my answer easily. And I am sharing it with you.
To me, family is everything, and to date, they are the only ones that can annoy me, and then we would continue as if nothing happened.
My parents.
I think this goes without saying, especially in Nigerian homes. Getting angry at your parents can be a futile effort in some homes because in the end, there will really be nothing you can do about it. after all, no matter how angry you get, you’ll still eat their food, live under their shelter, and wear the clothes they got you.
But then, as I grew older and started taking on some responsibilities, as I started getting away from their shadow and stopped relying on them for so much, I realized that I still feel that way about them. Now, getting angry at my parents won’t mean I would starve or anything. Still, I just can’t. Something might go the way I didn’t want it to, I might lose my cool for a while. I might be mad at them even. But if either of them calls me ten minutes later, I would still pick up the phone and say “good evening sir/ma.”
My siblings.
The love between my siblings and I is oppor, and for that, we can find it hard to stay angry at each other. I remember a time when two of my sisters were having a heated argument, very hot indeed that they were disturbing the entire house, and giving everyone headache. But then, two hours later, they were still arguing but this time it was about a Korean drama they were watching. And this new argument was punctuated with laughs and chuckles. No bad blood.
My baby sister is one person too that has the power and authority to get on my nerves as she likes, what am I going to do? When shouting does not do it? thankfully though, she doesn’t overstep or abuse the privilege because then I would have to develop thick skin where she is concerned. And that just seems like too much stress to me.
And finally, my Nieces.
Well, these little angels are still quite too young to get on my nerves yet or annoy me. But they are growing, and they are very smart, I can already see that it would be impossible to stay angry at them. Just looking into their eyes alone will melt out whatever anger you have towards them and make you do what they want you to do.
I believe that is all for me. I have good friends, close friends that we’ve been together with for a long time. There are some that I would eventually forgive if they do annoy me, but not with the speed at which I will do that with my family. After all, I’m a hard guy, it would tarnish my street credibility to be seen as a softie.
As I said, anger can be a double-edged sword. What matters is how it is used. Even a swordsman, there are people he would never raise the weapon to. The same for anger. With the right amount in relationships, there will be adequate growth all around, not just in individuals but also in the people around as well.
So, whenever you get angry, do it wisely.
Thank you for reading. Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section below, I would love to know what you are thinking. Till we meet in the next post.
This post is inspired by the second topic of this week which is Mild Annoyance. Feel free to take part.
