Cheating commenced with intentional lies and a willingness to narrate based on selfish acts and interests. Those petty lies someone keeps telling till action is taken because of that tricky opportunity it created. Perhaps because of brewing nasty emotional feelings called jealousy or could it be that one who wants to balance the equation of if-you-cheat-I-cheat. Some things don't add up when one tries to fill in the blanks of what transpired. Then from the view of things, I can perceive an act of inhumanity, toxic virtue of wickedness, hatred, and so forth.
Why do people cheat ??
One thing that can trigger cheating is the feeling of being offended, low self-esteem, lack of love, neglect, and circumstances. It might be the feeling of not being worthy in past relationships, it could be even personal reasons like childhood trauma and stigma.
Cheating can be viewed as an act of retaliation "revenge", most people can't handle the shame and humiliation they face when people do bad to them, and in anger, they give back that negative energy that was thrown at them in the first place.
In the end, either they are satisfied with their actions, or they feel bad about the act of retaliating. In other cases, folks tend to use excuses as a way to perform the act of cheating and when confronted, they would look for something else to hold onto like for instance, " this is nature" and so forth.
Cheating is cheating! No matter how you sugar-coat it, it would remain cheating. There is no excuse to give about that! Everyone is mature enough to own their mistakes! When one begins to nurture feelings of envy just because their partner is doing great to the extent that one cheated the other of the good things he or she was about to receive or has been receiving.
How She Cheated Me.
I cannot forget the situation where someone cheated on me because of some materialistic possessions that are not even worth a penny. That whole situation to date made me loathe that person and ever since then, we have always communicated properly from afar.
As a student who lives in a hostel with two other roommates, I have always tried to be accommodating and friendly. Well, I won't be so nice at the expense of my peace regardless of any relationship with anyone.
I do not know how to categorize this incident, but it all started when I had an encounter with this guy in particular who lived directly opposite us. We were friends (both my roommates and I, including the guy). Let us assume that the guy's name is Jonathan. Jonathan developed intimate feelings for me and when I noticed it, he was already all touchy.
Being my roommate, I confided in her to the extent of telling her about the advances of our neighbor and how I despised the fact that he was living so close to me and wanting a deep connection with me.
I went further in describing that this future impossible relationship might not work because I can't imagine myself going in and out of the room which is not so far from my flat. I acknowledge the fact that he is a nice and caring guy, and he buys me stuff I didn't even ask for. There are other things I found out about him that disgust me, but I wouldn't be sharing it here which I also told her that too.
To my greatest amazement, she had told the guy everything I said verbatim, I was utterly dumbfounded, and I felt cheated on just because she wanted Jonathan to buy her stuff just like the way he does for me without asking. She deceitfully achieved her aim and sugar coated most of my words to suit her selfish act. I was like for real?
One funny thing was that Jonathan fell for it and both of them continued where I stopped but it wasn't like when he wanted me first. The whole scenario was well played I must say! She had to sell me out to get what she wanted and in so doing she cheated me off. Although, I felt really bad for her to do that to me.
I felt betrayed, manipulated, and cheated off by my roomie which wasn't supposed to be so. I wanted to leave the apartment, but a second thought struck me, so I stayed back and looked away at everything that had transpired but at the same time, I made sure that she wasn't so accessible to me again. We stayed under one roof, but we were total strangers.
This is a response to the #hivelearners word of the week episode two - #hl-exclusive & #hl-w73e2
