Good day, amazing people of the Hive Blockchain. Welcome back to my blog. It is another edition in the #hivelearners community. I am so delighted to participate in this week’s prompt topic: big boys don’t cry.
The society made it look as if it is a taboo for a male child to cry; they assume that a man who cries is a weak man. I keep telling people around me that there is nothing wrong if these men cry. I will always say these men are passing through a lot of pressures already. One thing that most of us don’t understand is men are so emotional, but they will not open up because of what society will say or what people will see them as. These males are also human, just like the female child; they have feelings and emotions, and they also have limits.
Last week my little cousin was crying immediately. The mom told him that big guys don’t cry. He wiped his eyes and stopped crying immediately. Just like that, my small cousin, the mom, has given him this ideology that big guys don’t cry. That's why men must die in silence because they are afraid of what the world will say or how people will see them.
Most times I feel for this man because the society is putting more pressure on them. The society has come up with this mindset that real men do not complain; they must be strong even in difficult moments. For crying out loud, these people are also human like the female child; they have blood running in them. For me, our men are being enslaved and not living by the rule of life.
I think these men deserve to show their emotions whenever they feel like it. For the fact that this man cries, that doesn’t make him less of a man or a weaker man. There is a point in our lives when we feel broken, and the only way to let people know that you have gotten to your limit is by crying. Most times when you cry, you ease some of the things bothering you.
Most times I think the men also contribute to this ideology that men don’t cry. I have this friend of mine that nearly committed suicide because he didn’t want us, his friends, to know that he is okay. According to him, he didn’t want to feel less of a man by breaking down in front of his friend. There are thousands of men out there who still try hard to hold up inside of voicing out their emotions.
I know it is not easy for a guy to voice their emotions. Whenever I come across someone who did that, I respect the person with everything in me because I totally know what it takes for that man to speak up. Like I said earlier, there are so many demands on this male. There is nothing wrong if you admit that you are weak; that doesn’t make you less of a man. Rather, you are a hero. I ask myself, ‘How does this man do that?’ You will see a man that is dying silently, cracking jokes with friends.
The men should be encouraged to voice out when they get to their limit. With that, it will help reduce the death of man. Every man out should be vocal; speaking out is never a weakness but rather a brave step. Tears are not meant for a particular person; you get to a point you can’t take it again and cry and voice out for help. Always remember this: live the best of your life forget what society will say.
This is my response tolife; the weekly prompts. #hivelearners #hl-w203e2 topic: big boys don’t cry.
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