Hello Community.
So i won't lie , I don't put any kind of unnecessary pressure on myself, I am not that kind of person , life already has shown me that it can be very unpredictable in alot of ways , so I don't see the point of allowing certain things that I don't have control over to stress me, thing I don't fully have control over, but then that doesn't mean that I don't set clear goals and expectations for myself, I actually do, what's life without achievements, I just don't allow such things to weigh me down that I have to lose my peace over it.
For me I know that life is just about balance, I know what I want in life, and I know the kind of life that I am building for myself, also I understand that things don't always go as one plans it, because life can be unpredictable, you can plan from this year to next year and or small things will come and shift everything away, so instead of me putting pressure on myself I just focus on the moment, that's the present, the one I'm sure of.
Sincerely, it really can be frustrating when something you planned doesn't work out, or doesn't play out the way you imagined It would, there are times you expect something to work out,and you have put in your effort, time, even your energy, and it just doesn’t still click, in those moments, I truly don’t really beat myself up about it, I just take a step back and ask myself, “Okay, what’s the next move?” because at the end of the day, there is just no point crying over something that I don't t have full control over, so I come to realize that it is not everything that is by force, some things will work out and yea some other things will not, and then that one does not automatically means that I have failed in life , nope... It might just mean that the time wasn't right yet or that it wasn't meant to go that way, so I don't stress it, I just shift my focus to find solution or push it on other things that needs my attention or I try a Completely new approach to it.
Honestly ? I don't think that I am.hard on myself or anything, if at all, I just know that I have learned be to be very kind to myself , because life is already hard for you to now be still hard on yourself, there are alot of things that we deal within this life as individuals, responsibilities, expectations, pressure etc, so adding more doesn't just make any sense to me at all , and yes I have seen how people can be hard on themselves, they always compare themselves to others , they feel like that they are not doing enough, chasing perfection, so I can understand the mindset, but then,it's not healthy in the long run.
I prefer to move at my own pace and to celebrate every of my little win, I do learn from my mistakes and I just keep going, because I am certainly not in a race with anyone, so at the end of the day , I believe yes, it's important to have goals as yes it is important you have your peace of mind too.