When a man is blessed, I believe that the first participant or partakers of that blessing are members of his own household.
Every level of the ladder a man has to climb in life comes with some hard decisions, which may be stoping a particular habit, leaving an old environment, and so on.
Family is one of the basic units of life, and the majority of the things we want to do in life are because we want our family to be better.
However, sometimes the same family you struggle for may be the one keeping you at a spot, which could be very annoying, especially when you are aware of this.
Many times we see people whose parents wanted something for them, especially choosing a particular course in the university, and sometimes we have seen those same people go back to school to actually pursue their passion and make it big.
The reality of life is no matter how your stoppingfamily loves you, if that love is keeping you from achieving your goals, then you have to take some hard decisions.
Talk less about the things you want to be and achieve around them because they will keep reminding you of the impossibility of your goals. We saw how Joseph was sold in the Bible because of his dreams, which he talked about to his brethren.
The less you talk about it to them, the more focused you can become and take action.
A change of environment sometimes can be just the thing you need because they say out of sight is out of mind, and by the time you move somewhere that can't easily reach you, you can redirect your focus towards achieving your goals.
In some cases they could be understanding if you explained to them, but this also has its own challenges, as they will always remind you of your words, especially when you give a timeline and you haven't met it. Like the popular Nigerians say, "You go explain tire," and it can be very frustrating.
From Stoic wisdom, the best way to actually make them see is to keep doing until you become that very person you envision, and when this finally happens, the same family that didn't want you to pursue those impossible dreams starts saying things like, "We knew you were going to be great."
Miles Moore of blessed memory once said his father wanted him to be a salesman at a grocery shop, but he disobeyed, and in the particular meeting I watched when he said this, his dad was seated in the congregation, and then he went on to say, "I am so glad I didn't obey you that time, Dad."
And his dad affirmed that he was also glad his son didn't obey back then, and we know how impactful the life of Myles Moore was; even after his death, his legacy lives on.
This goes to show that in life there are other people whose destinies are tied to ours, and if we don't shine and fulfill destiny, we deprive those people from shining as well.
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