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Life is all about making choices and decisions, and as a man thinks in his heart, so is he.
This edition of the Hive Learners writing topic reminds me of a movie I saw some time ago.
The movie was about a girl whose dad made a bad business decision while she was younger, and because of that decision, they went bankrupt, which led to her being bullied in school as the daughter of a poor man.
She made a decision and worked hard until she became wealthy just because she wanted to escape being bullied by the rich, but in a bid to escape what happened to her at a tender age, she became the exact person she was running from.
She bullied all her staff and didn't forgive her dad for the bad business decision he made years ago till he eventually died, and she was full of regrets in the end until she met someone who helped her through the process of recovery from the past.
Many times in life we do not have power over the things that happen to us, but we have the power to choose who we become, either by letting such situations define us or by deciding not to let such situations define the trajectory of our lives.
For those who have at one point or another gone through a situation that might have negatively shaped their personality, they have to seek help, but it is only someone who knows they have an issue that can seek help.
Most times the way such a person can know something is wrong is through a very close friend that can tell you anything; whether you are hurt or not, they will tell you.
Another way is when you meet people for the first time and they complain about something you did; then that's something to look out for.
Lastly is to ask for an honest review, and this could be done by directly walking up to people and asking or doing an anonymous section online.
Having done the above, the next thing is to get therapy, which will help rechannel your energy in the right part.
deciding not to let the situation of the past be the defining factor upon which your values are built
And lastly, have a value system that helps to reshape your mind, and you can do that by studying the Bible, reading books that can help you deal with the situation, and joining a club where you can talk about it.
Forgiveness is an act of benevolent choice to let go of the wrong being done to you at any point in time. The act of forgiveness gives you power over the situation by choosing not to react based on people's actions.
When people decide to throw tantrums because of bad past experiences, it is because they have not taken their power to take control; instead, they let the situations decide their actions.
In the end we may not have control over life's situations and what life brings at us, but we have the power to turn negative situations for our good based on our choices and actions.
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