Sharon, a teenage girl who is always locked up in her room. Sharon never mingles in person, but Sharon can stay indoors for almost the whole day, without seeing the outside world.
She had everything right there in her room, and so, she could decide to come eat and watch television with the family or stay indoors.
But you know what, irrespective of personality type, you see that thing called love it dwells in the heart. So much so, that even a locked up body can not lock up that desire to love and to be loved.
On a faithful day, Sharon meets Kelvin (Kell for short) and out of the blues comes the feelings of love right in the locked up room. She felt it. She could tell the strange feeling. There was actually a difference.
Love is, irrespective of the awareness of who feels it. Even though you do not know it, you feel it. Its feeling is not in the knowing it. Sharon is in love.
Kell catches the signal (green light), and as a guy connects immediately. Both have never met before in person. Sharon had a lot of persons in school, even more handsome that Kell, but she never associated. Maybe they were never her type or who knows what it was. But she fell for that one on social media.
And of course, the push of love's feeling is one so strong compared to fine wine, but sometimes, an experience of hate in what seemed to be love, can be life-threatening.
They soon agreed to meet. She never tells her parents her movements and her parents never asks or maybe they were tired of asking, since she keeps mute and locks up.
Who is Kell?
Where is he from?
Who are his family?
What does he do?
Does he even really exist?
or could it be a monster in disguise?
WHO IS HE?
Finally they meet and being naïve, she sheepishly followed him to a drink, there it became a date. My dear Sharon is an innocent and naïve young girl. Sharon was latter drugged, taken to an unknown place, ganged rapped, and butchered like a meat for sale. Kell is actually a contract killer. He is a monster.
Days passed and Sharon was no where to be found. Sharon is gone without a trace.
If Sharon had mingled, probably she would have heard of experiences from friends, she would have been aware of the realities of these things. She would have known what it means to place boundaries in relationships. She would also have known in a way, what it entails to go out with a guy. She would have known of what trust is and not just about love.
The internet and the social media in particular can never teach us everything we need to know. We really need to mingle to learn from people around. The wise ones learn from other's mistake and experiences and not theirs. Though the internet has a whole lot of advantages, we should never neglect its whole lot of disadvantages also.
Two things to me are key in handling relationships generally and more importantly digital acquaintances and relationships: Exposure and Self-discipline.
Exposure opens you to many information about life experiences. it broadens your horizon. One interesting thing with mingling is the fact that you even get to learn practically from those your friends who surround you. You get to understand how most guys and girls reason.
Discipline is the strict adherence to principles. In relationship or friendship, it defines what kind of a thing you have with the other person. If a person is your boyfriend, discipline defines that as it, in contrast to a person who is just mere acquaintance. Such that, if an acquaintance encroaches, you remind the person. And even as a boyfriend, there should also be discipline based on mutual agreement.
As far as the internet is concerned, it is not enough to just meet someone on social media, we really need to be disciplined enough to control our emotions and maintain it at friendship until both decides on a relationship.
Discipline also involves having and living by good values as a young girl and a young guy.
Guard against pity and Emotions while relating with someone on social media.