When a person gets hurt physically, emotionally or mentally it most times leaves behind scars that are hardly forgettable, pain really changes peoples look on life generally, changes some peoples behavior in some certain areas and in some cases the hurt individual might even inflict pain on others knowingly or unknowingly.
Trauma and pain can explain while some persons behave in certain way but then again let us establish the fact Everyone is responsible for their actions hence an harmful behavior shouldn’t be excused. We know for a fact that even if someone was wronged and later harms another person, that person would be held accountable for his or her actions.
Society and morality is built on the idea that we must strive to act right even when we are struggling mentally and emotionally, without this principle the world turns chaotic where pain is being paid with pain and wrong behaviors are not justified. It is important to recognize that pain often prejudice judgment. People who are deeply hurt often lack the ability to
Process their trauma healthily. They might lash out, withdraw or even project the pains on the closest to them. For me personally when I am hurt I tend to withdraw from everyone, I’d prefer to be quiet because if I don’t withdraw I might use words that I would definitely regret or at the end I might just inflict pains on myself the more by crying.
Like I mentioned earlier everyone should be held accountable for their actions because most times the people at the of the pain circle don’t always have an idea why their been hurt, they just end up paying for the sins of others and if care is not taken some innocent people might even end up losing their lives, and the thing is some of the people that even pass down this pain to other people don’t even realize that they’re passing down their hurt to other people, take for instance a person that has been in his or her past relationship would definitely project insecurities into the new relationship or a child who grows in a home with emotional neglect may become distant as an adult without even realizing it. In this case the individual might not even intend to harm other people but their past pain has taken them to their present interactions.
People who pass on trauma to other people on one hand kind deserve some empathy because on the other hand they were also victims themselves, they didn’t deserve any form of ill treatment that brought such hurt, many of them are still struggling with their own emotions, hence why a person that doesn’t love him or herself would hardly another person, personally I think they should be encouraged and challenged to seek help cause if not the circle continues.
Awareness is the first step towards healing, if a person becomes aware of their hurtful and accept that they have been wrong with their bad behaviors then from there they can seek help or also ask for forgiveness from the people that they hurt, forgiveness isn’t an easy task, it takes a strong person to forgive someone from being hurt for things they know nothing about, but then again forgiveness is possible.
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