I have always loved romantic stories. Most of them gave me an imaginable glimpse of what romance and relationships entailed. However it's no secret that some novels and movies convey the wrong message and often mislead people. It is quite understood since the movie industry is majorly for entertainment.
From my point of view, I'll say that romantic novels and movies are 60% representation of happenings in relationships. Though some of these works are fictional, there's no denying that most of the stories have happened in reality. In a nutshell I'll say these two have their advantages and disadvantages as meaning that it could make and also break your relationship in reality.
The most outstanding thing I learn from romantic novels and movies is spicing up my romantic relationship. There are always varieties of stuff you'll see and read. I personally make new discoveries almost every time and I try it in my relationship to see if it will work or not. It could be how to apologise to my partner, ways to spend time together, gift ideas, anything. Take note I said try these things meaning that I know it may or may not work and not that I feel it has to work.
I also feel some people are very unwise because they definitely set standards based on what they have watched or read and it shouldn't be and this is when these movies/novels become a deal breaker. Why would anyone by all means want to make real something that was imagined and staged? Everyone's relationship can't always happen exactly how it is described in an imaginable work.(novels/movies).
I remember a movie I once watched titled Real Men. In the movie there were two different ladies in different relationships and they lived in the same building. One of the ladies had a loving and kind husband but she just chose to be mean. She would abort pregnancies without informing the husband, pour water on her husband after he has dressed up so he won't go to work, I think she hit him too yet the husband wouldn't hit her also. Eventually she changed when she realized the other lady was being maltreated and beaten by her husband for not being able to conceive.
I won't be surprised if a lady decides to try this with her man. I believe the love story just wanted us to learn to appreciate our men and the little they do for us and not tell us to go and slap our men, deny them sex or abuse them in one way or the other. Again I say it's very possible for someone to get the wrong message and decide to frustrate her man to see if he'll beat her (I hope she gets knocked 😂)
Every individual should be smart enough to be selective about everything. It's okay to watch these movies and read these books for the pleasure of it but it's not okay to expect everything you've seen and read. The best thing to do is pick out the good lessons and apply them in your relationship and leave out other parts.
No one should attach any hard feelings to what they read and watch, every writer is expected to be creative and so they'll go to any length to produce a good work but that doesn't make it a great model worthy of compulsory emulation. Know this and know peace.
