In a world where individual indifference is prioritised More than associated personal values. being different doesn't hurt until you find out that your environment and people around you are acting on such indifferences to make you feel unworthy or less valued. the concept of stereotyping is wide phenomenon but to avoid stepping on some sensitive matters I will keep this write up in the context of my person experience with the concept.
Have you ever felt left out among your peers to the level you feel like you are unworthy of there attention or unwanted in the gathering of men such was my case during my national diploma days. Due to my background and upbringing I have this religious mentality which is the backbone of my way of thinking and formulation of my personality.
I was brought up in a Christian home and raised by very religious parent, they are not extremely religious but we act based on the guidelines of 10 commandments prescribed by the bible. in so doing they were some worldly actions and attitude I naturally abstain from.
When I was admitted to gateway Polytechnic to study mass communication, I resumed late because the admission to the School was never what I wanted so it took me awhile before I considered the admission. Due to this reason I had to quickly sort out an apartment so that I could be ready to sit for the first semester exam. my mom had this friend, her son was also admitted to gateway poly but her son resumed early and already got an apartment so I was asked to scout with him for awhile till I have my own apartment. the woman explained that they are about 7 people scouting in the 2 rooms apartment with her son, plus me making 8. it was like "Fuji house of commotion" 😅😅, 4 students per room. I had no choice but to go along with the plan.
On getting there, I realise everyone were older than I am, my baby face didn't help the case either. well for a couple of weeks they were giving me the guest treatment till eventually I saw the true nature of how they are living.
For a person like, up to this moment, I don't watch football, I don't drink beer or alcoholic drinks (except alcoholic wine occasionally) and I don't take pleasure in womanising but this was not the case of my room mates, majority of them had multiple girlfriends, especially Gideon and Mustapha they were the worst of all, Friday night is always miserable for me because the sounds of the love making is so loud that we won't have any night sleep till day break. they tried to hook me up with some of their friends but it didn't work out, eventually they realise I wasn't into such things so they started treating me like a female, it was humiliating. they went as far as adding a "miss" to my name.
They believed men who do not the things they do are not considered to be men, when they go out for parties and clubs they just leave me out of it, the feminine treatment towards me was obvious because even I wasn't not helping the case, in most times I go about with my note book writing in it every moment like it some kind diary but it wasn't, I'm into poetry. so I always to try pen down any lines that pops up in my head but by doing so they considered me to be a weird fellow, so I did not fit in among them
Most times, they make use homosexual languages to describe my sexuality, I paid no attention to it but I wasn't feeling cool about it either, Due to their actions it completely deprived my social abilities and I became a pariah among my peers, I just keep things to my self and roam alone.
Eventually, I met people with same religious personality such as me, people like mayowa and Abiodun, who made me feel more like myself.
It wasn't a pleasant experience to be segregated among my peers but I was glad that no matter how bad I felt there actions didn't influence my attitude and perception of worldly activities.
The Good news is that, it strengthened my power of will which enables me to be myself instead of pretending to be who I'm not in order to feel among and I believe such attitude and self resolution should be adopted by all.
I do believe people should abstain from act such as stereotyping because you never know how much effect such actions is having on the victims.
I apologize for my reduced activities on my blog recently, final year research project has been extremely time consuming, I will be back to my full volume in the next two weeks, Thanks for understanding
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