One man's food is another man's poison, everyone has their preference which makes us different from each other, having a couple from the same age bracket has its advantages and disadvantages also having a couple who is older has its own too.
Having a couple who is older than you is acceptable for a female child but people criticize a man who is younger than his wife mostly in African countries, we believe that a man should be older than his wife before he can accord maximum respect from the wife.
In most African countries especially in Nigeria, we tend to believe that the man should be older, most fathers love to give their female children to their friends because they believe that he would take better care of the child than a younger guy and also the man has experience and also he is mature to handle such lady as his wife, this mostly happens in the northern part of the country.
Also, some ladies marry older men because of money not love, while some parent force their children to marry older men because of wealth, if you are from Nigeria you would understand this case, there is an actress from Nigeria who marries an older man, I am not in a position to judge her she only knows what is best for her but everyone believes she did it because of money and she is glowing but we all don't know what she is facing in her marriage so we can never judge her decision.
Most people believe that if you marry an older man then you are free from poverty, though most of these older men are richer but the question is are you really happy? you may use the best car, and live in a better house but does your husband have time for you? Can he satisfy you in bed, that is most question we need to answer before thinking about going into a relationship with older men, Are they widowers? Where is the first wife, I hope my children are safe. These questions are crucial before making such a decision.
In my opinion, I love to go into relationship with someone who is either two years or three years older than me that is the maximum I can accept because I love to be free with my partner, not a partner that will always make me feel inferior all because he is way older than me, I want a partner who I can talk to and a gisting partner, not the ones that will always be going for one important meeting all the time.
As I said earlier what makes me happy can be poison to others, I love my man to look younger and more mature, I love a man that I can be proud of in public, not the one who will always tell me what I bring to the table, not the one that my opinion will not matter, I know that nobody loves to suffer but I want a man that we can build our lives from the scratch and raise beautiful children together not an already made ones.
We believe that age is just a number but it is better to marry right and choose the best partner that you can flaunt around, not the one you will be ashamed to present to your friends, I prefer my relationship to be within my age bracket not the one who will be as of the same age with my father, how will I play with his beard because I will be afraid not to do anything that will hurt him. gosh
I am not saying marrying an older man is not good but the question I need to ask is "Are these ladies ready to be widows" because these older men can die at any time, I know people will have different perspectives on this topic but my opinion remains that I can never marry someone who is six years above older than me.
Age is no more a number because it will definitely tell on you, your face will begin to wrinkle and that is a sign of old age, I am too young to be thinking of how to take care of an old man who will not be able to satisfy me sexually, and that can lead to fornication in marriage, I am not after the money, I am after the happiness of marriage and peace of mind. We still have guys who are God-fearing and good-looking guys that suit my taste and choice.
To all the parents who are after money than the happiness of their children please let's stop the habit of choosing a spouse for our female children, their happiness in marriage matters most, they all have their lives to live, young ladies please let us stop living for our parents, we deserve to be happy that old man may not bring happiness like the way we want. I chose a man who I would love to spend the rest of my life with in peace and harmony without dragging inheritance with other senior wives' children.
This is my opinion about this episode of hivelearners community prompt of #hl-w125e1 which the topic is tagged AGE IS JUST A NUMBER
