Ghosting doesn’t mean ignoring a person completely, It means choosing silence instead of explaining yourself. It is when you stop replying, stop showing up, and quietly disappear from someone’s life without saying goodbye, many people see it as cruel, but sometimes it feels like the only option left.
There was this guy we attended the same secondary school, we weren't close at all because I always sees him as the Goliath of our time, he is so huge and belongs to the black seater in class, I sees him as a bully because why would your class mates be afraid of you and one call like this many of the classmates are already at his desk, he sent people errands anyone because he believes he can and no one can challenge him, so I'm always afraid of him and avoided him completely.
Some years back I got a message from one of my classmates on Facebook and he requested my contact which I gave him for us to catch up not knowing that the guy I always ran from was the one who sent the guy to me just to get my number.
One fateful evening this guy called me and introduced himself, I was shocked when I heard his name but it has been 10-12 years now so I'm not afraid anymore, we spoke for minutes then hung up, the following day he called as well and we started catching up though I told him the reasons why we are not a talking mate when we were in school and told him I do not like his behavior while in school at all.
We got talking and he always called frequently even chatting on WhatsApp not knowing he had developed feelings for me, then this guy began to unleash his behavior one after the other, whenever he called and I didn't pick up his calls he would start questioning me, being so authoritative and arrogant, I quickly saw the red flags and started withdrawing from him.
Whenever he calls I would purposely ignore the calls and gradually I started shortening our conversation time, I do not want to end the friendship on a grudging level but withdrawing myself was the best option, before I knew it I could ignore his chat for a week without replying, and I started feeling myself without anyone policing me.
One thing I did was not disappearing in a day and I didn't fight with him, I just reduced the energy I always gave him when he called and also let him realized his flaws, he may sees it as a way of discipline people around him but with that kind of attitude no lady can bear that, I left before he would lead to another thing.
Ghosting doesn't mean you hate someone or keep malice with them, it is just that the energy and emotions you have for them have reduced, I hate it when a conversation starts to feel hot or when you start feeling god over my life, I love it when we keep the energy cool but when arrogance sets in, it is no longer for me.
This is my entry to this episode of Hivelearners community prompt of #hl-w184e01 which the topic tagged GHOSTING
