As parents, one of the most challenging tasks is disciplining our children when they've made a mistake. It's natural to feel frustrated, angry, or disappointed when our kids do something wrong, but it's essential to handle the situation in a way that teaches them a valuable lesson without damaging their self-esteem or relationship with us. In this post, I would love to share effective discipline strategies that focus on teaching kids to learn from their mistakes rather than simply punishing them.
As an African child, we understand what is called body language, this is when your parent talks to you by using eye contact or banging their foot on the floor, we all know the meaning of what they are saying without saying it out, so you dare not go against such rule but if you do there is a huge punishment for it.
Discipline a child is not necessarily by beating, I noticed one thing about the children of this generation that beating is now making them grow stronger and adamant, there are different ways to discipline a child that will make such child listen and couple well.
I was watching a content online last week, the father barbs his child's dreadlocks because he bullied another child who is dealing with cancer in school so the father had to barb his hair just for him to feel what the other boy is going through, the boy apologizes to his father but the father had to discipline him in other not to repeat such attitude, I believe he valued his hair and this will make him adjust in the area of tormenting other children.
When I saw the video and noticed that the boy cherished his hair then I said this is discipline, it will make him adjust rather than beating him which will never last for a day, making him feel what the other boy is feeling is a height of discipline for me, as a parent you can discipline a child with what he or she value the most, it can be his favorite movie show, phones or dresses, this doesn't mean you hate them but teaching them so that they will be useful to themselves and others in the society.
My sister always disciplined his son using his favorite movie series as his punishment, he would be inside and others would be watching movies, my sister had studied his son and knew his weak points, so anytime he did something wrong then that would be his punishment, he will always beg and cry and also promise not to repeat such thing, it always works for my sister using their favorite things to punish them and this is another way to discipline a child rather than flogging them all the time.
Our scary punishment when we were young was our father, if my mother said I will report you to your father then you are gone, the fear of our father was the beginning of gentleness, our mother always used our father to threaten us when we were young, we always behave well whenever we hear that statement, we always cry and beg our mother never to report us to our father, the father is the disciplinarian our every responsible home, no one dares go against our father rule, though my father is very accommodating and friendly with us but when it comes to the issue of discipline a child my father is always there.
Mere mentioning our father, we are back to factory settings, our system will cooperate with our mother, and we always obey our mother at that time in other to avoid anything that will make our case to visit the zenith building, I always called my father's room the zenith building because it is a disciplinary channel that no one can escape the beating of his or her life, when you are summoned by the panel of judges which is my father.
There are many ways to discipline a child, and talking with a child too can help in some cases but not all, we should always know how to discipline our children as a parent so as not to spoil the child.
This is my response to this episode of hivelearners community prompt of #hl-w140e3 which the topic is tagged
PARENTS AND DISCIPLINE
